brendans_mommy
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Mexico, Fifth District
I just got back from the court house, I was picking up a copy of the motion my ex(Isaiah) filed in return to my petition for paternity, custody, and support. What is the difference between legal custody and physical custody? I understand that until a custody agreement is signed by a judge who ever is holding the child has physical custody, but is there more to it?
In his motion Isaiah has agreed to pay child support in the amount that is figured out by the child support worksheet our state website offers. I went through and input the info. and put him in a making minumum wage and it came to $325.00 a month. He wants the child support payments to start after the dna test proves he is the father. Needless to say he has agreed to the dna testing that I requested.
Isaiah want me to pay for all the costs for the dna testing and the expert witness fees. Should I ask the judge to split the costs equally between us? Im willing to pay half of the costs, but he doesnt want to help pay for anything except the child support the judge will order.
He also wants joint legal custody, which was the reason for my first question. I feel that he shouldnt have custody of any kind of our child. I have made all the major choices in reguards to the best interests of my son since before he was born, and I have done it all by myself. I dont feel he has earned that right. However I do want him to have visitation and to be able to see his son. But I have a fiance and he is graduating from Sam Houston State later this month. So with in the next year i will be moving to join him in Houston, Tx. Also with my fiance's condition (scleroderma) we have to live close to his doctors in Houston because he goes atleast once a month. I dont want him to be able to force me to stay in the state, how do i get around that?
We both agree that I will be the one to keep insurance on my son. I feel we should split the medical & dental bills not covered by insurance 50/50 but Isaiah feels I should pay for them all.
Then after the dna test proves he is the father I requested that my sons birth records be changed to show Isaiah as his father and give my son his last name. Isaiah doesnt want them to change the records.
So my question is what can I do about all of this?
Thank you for taking the time to read this any thing you can tell me would be great.
xoxoxo Kayla
I just got back from the court house, I was picking up a copy of the motion my ex(Isaiah) filed in return to my petition for paternity, custody, and support. What is the difference between legal custody and physical custody? I understand that until a custody agreement is signed by a judge who ever is holding the child has physical custody, but is there more to it?
In his motion Isaiah has agreed to pay child support in the amount that is figured out by the child support worksheet our state website offers. I went through and input the info. and put him in a making minumum wage and it came to $325.00 a month. He wants the child support payments to start after the dna test proves he is the father. Needless to say he has agreed to the dna testing that I requested.
Isaiah want me to pay for all the costs for the dna testing and the expert witness fees. Should I ask the judge to split the costs equally between us? Im willing to pay half of the costs, but he doesnt want to help pay for anything except the child support the judge will order.
He also wants joint legal custody, which was the reason for my first question. I feel that he shouldnt have custody of any kind of our child. I have made all the major choices in reguards to the best interests of my son since before he was born, and I have done it all by myself. I dont feel he has earned that right. However I do want him to have visitation and to be able to see his son. But I have a fiance and he is graduating from Sam Houston State later this month. So with in the next year i will be moving to join him in Houston, Tx. Also with my fiance's condition (scleroderma) we have to live close to his doctors in Houston because he goes atleast once a month. I dont want him to be able to force me to stay in the state, how do i get around that?
We both agree that I will be the one to keep insurance on my son. I feel we should split the medical & dental bills not covered by insurance 50/50 but Isaiah feels I should pay for them all.
Then after the dna test proves he is the father I requested that my sons birth records be changed to show Isaiah as his father and give my son his last name. Isaiah doesnt want them to change the records.
So my question is what can I do about all of this?
Thank you for taking the time to read this any thing you can tell me would be great.
xoxoxo Kayla
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