I finally got a proposed settlement offer from my Ex:
• Joint Legal Custody
• Visit son in NY every other weekend, Mother pays for airfare (Friday night 8pm to Sunday 6pm).
• Visitation is extended to Monday until 6pm on 3-day weekends
• 1 week vacation in June, 2 consecutive weeks in August
• Thanksgiving in even years, Christmas in odd years
• Child’s birthday if it falls on a weekend. Mother is responsible for airfare for child to and from NY.
• 2 video calls per day
• Child support will be lowered by 50%
1. I'm fine with joint legal as long as there's a stipulation for if we can't come to an agreement, which most likely will happen, that I get final decision making power as I am custodial parent. I do not want to get stuck with my son's health hanging in the balance because I have to wait for him to agree to a procedure/treatment etc. Ex can be very non responsive and indecisive.
2. Putting my son on a plane every 2 weeks seems like a lot. I'm sticking to bringing him once a month and paying for Dad to come to NC once a month at my expense. Also those times don't work. Doesn't allow for son to get prepared for school the next day, etc.
3. Child support lowered by 50%. NEVER. If I'm paying for all this travel there's no way I'm ever agreeing to lower child support by half.