By Thanksgiving and Christmas does he mean just the holidays or the full school break?
What about other school breaks? I like your counter offer, plus offering some school break time. (We have a week off in Feb + another in spring, what's usual in your school district?)
Edit: I forgot how young your child was. Still, there should be language in the order that accounts for school. Otherwise, you'll be back in a year scrambling to get something in place for kindergarten.
Definitely thinking long term as he starts PreK the end of the year. I came up with 2 options for visitation:
Option 1
1 weekend in NY every 6 weeks, Mother will pay for airfare.
1 week in June (to include Father’s Day)
2 weeks in August
Thanksgiving Thursday – Saturday (odd years)
Christmas 25-31 – (even years) Christmas vacation will coincide with the child’s school vacation
Option 2
Every 3 day weekend (January, February, May, July, Sept)
Spring break (April)
1 week in June (to include Father’s Day)
2 weeks in August
Thanksgiving, Thursday – Saturday (odd years)
Christmas 25-31 – (even years) Christmas vacation will coincide with the child’s school vacation
*with this schedule Father gets to see son every month except March and October