custody

[2greatkids]

What is the name of your state? MS

Can anyone tell me the odds of getting custody changed because of a meddling stepmother? She has caused so many problems and dad has no guts to stand up to her.

Thanks

 

[tylersmom]

Define meddling. She has no legal rights as far as decisionmaking for your children. Every decision that is made should be made by you and your ex together. She shouldn't even factor into it.

 

[2greatkids]

She listens to calls when I talk to my children, she tries to present herself as their mother at doctor appointments, school and anywhere else she can (which I get corrected as soon as I find out). She has to be there at pickups and drop offs and always tries to make a scene in front of the children. She tries to make them call her mom, which they dont want to.

My ex will not say anything to her. She has eventold me to pay her extra child support or I wont see my kids, which did not work because I told her I would file contempt on ex.

Thanks for the replies.

 

[tylersmom]

She listens to calls when I talk to my children, she tries to present herself as their mother at doctor appointments, school and anywhere else she can (which I get corrected as soon as I find out). She has to be there at pickups and drop offs and always tries to make a scene in front of the children. She tries to make them call her mom, which they dont want to.

My ex will not say anything to her. She has eventold me to pay her extra child support or I wont see my kids, which did not work because I told her I would file contempt on ex.

Thanks for the replies.

So, your ex husband is the CP? Do you have joint custody or what? How often do you get your children?

 

[Silverplum]

She listens to calls when I talk to my children, she tries to present herself as their mother at doctor appointments, school and anywhere else she can (which I get corrected as soon as I find out). She has to be there at pickups and drop offs and always tries to make a scene in front of the children. She tries to make them call her mom, which they dont want to.

My ex will not say anything to her. She has eventold me to pay her extra child support or I wont see my kids, which did not work because I told her I would file contempt on ex.

Thanks for the replies.

So file contempt. Hire an attorney to write a stern and official letter to Dad and SM. That sometimes works.

 

[2greatkids]

We have joint custody with him being primary. I get my kids almost every weekend and at least one evening, but most of the time two during the week.

I pay $400.00 a month child support and also buy extra like clothes, sports.

 

[tylersmom]

We have joint custody with him being primary. I get my kids almost every weekend and at least one evening, but most of the time two during the week.

I pay $400.00 a month child support and also buy extra like clothes, sports.

It definately sounds as though she is interfering with your role as a parent, which would be in contempt. I'd go see a lawyer. More than likely, she's doing it out of some sort of resentment for you. Bottom line is she is not the parent and is way out of line. Unfortunately she probably won't stop unless she faced with consequences.

 

[2greatkids]

Thanks for the replies. I will talk to a lawyer.

 

[moburkes]

It definately sounds as though she is interfering with your role as a parent, which would be in contempt.

What is she in contempt of?

 

[tylersmom]

What is she in contempt of?

She may not be in contempt since she is nothing to the child, but the father is because he is allowing this to happen. It's blatant disrespect for the other parent.

 

[moburkes]

So, what is he in contempt of?

 

[tylersmom]

He is a negative influence on the NCP and child's relationship. The stepmother is portraying herself as the child's mother, which no doubt will have a negative effect on the children. If nothing else, it will be confusing and distressing to them. He may not be doing all this, but he is allowing it to happen and it is his responsibility to stop this kind of behavior. If he doesn't, she has a right to complain to the courts.

 

[moburkes]

You didn't have to explain the situation; I can read. However, you incorrectly told the OP that the stepmom and the dad were in contempt, which is totally incorrect legal advice. THAT was my point!

 

[tylersmom]

Yes, I see your point. If it is in the custody order, which it is in mine (but that doesn't mean it is in theirs), then it is contempt. If not, then she still can file a complaint about it. I apologize for my mistake.