custody

[1733]

We have set custody and visitation but now the father wants more visitation becuase his lifestykle has changed? Am i supposed to just give in or do i have say in the matter?

 

[stepmommy26]

Why don't you give in, there's nothing better then seeing a father wanting to spend more times with his children.

 

[1733]

it's not that i don't want to give in

but why does it always have to be when it was convenient for his life? when we initially went to court-our mediation was there to let us get out all aggressions,concerns,and etc to come to a set schedule for our son. We came to an agreement and it was put down on paper.

The father just finished school and got a new job and says he now has time to see his child. No concern to him before, other than his scheduled days.

I pretty much have raised my child from pregnancy till now and I agreed to mediation and went through it and now I feel like everything I did concerning the welfare of my child does not count.

He is behind in child support and doesn't seem that he needs to fix that situation either. So where does that leave my child?

 

[tibby00]

Isn't this supposed to be about the best for the child. The child doesn't care about the money they care about their parents...both parents. I think it's great that the dad wants more time with the child. He is just as entitled to this as the mom is. My husband is in somewhat the same situation. He now works better hours plus we are married now so I am home often. So he naturally wanted to alter the mediation to see his daughter more often. But his daughter's mom figures since he couldn't have the child more before why should he now. That's not right. What does the child want?

 

[stepmommy26]

I totally agree with tibby, the child's best interest is being able to see his father more. I understand that he is behind in support but while seeing his son more, he will be able to buy him the things he needs.
Let him bond with his child, so many fathers out there with good intentions are never able to see there children, the money isssue is between you and your ex, don't involve your son.