Cutting Visitation Short

[mmtorres]

What is the name of your state? TX

My son is visiting w/his dad, and recently found out that he was arrested for
dui, in possesionDUI - LIQUOR OR DRUGS/APCV BOND $2.000 6/10/06 6/12/06
6/10/2006 RL UNLAWFUL POSSESSION OF PARAPHE BOND 6/10/06 6/12/06
6/10/2006 RL POSS OF CONTROLLED SUBSTANCE BOND 6/10/06 6/12/06
6/10/2006 RL IMPROPER TAIL LAMPS/TAG LAMPS BOND 6/10/06 6/12/06
6/10/2006 RL DRIVING W/ LICENSE CANC/SUSP/R

Shouldn't I be informed about this from him? Can I pick him up as soon as possible w/out getting into any trouble for cutting his visitation short? I really don't want my son there. Any advice I can get would be great.

 

[Halls]

Is your ex in prison at this time? If that is the case than his visitation is over and I would go get your son. Do you know who has your child? If your exis out on bond and has your daughter I would call a lawyer yesterday and find out what you need to do about this.

 

[CJane]

He's under no obligation to inform you, and no, you can't go pick up the child 'as soon as possible'. Dad hasn't even been convicted of anything yet... and when/if he is... unless the child was WITH him when he was arrested/cited, you probably wouldn't even be able to change visitation.

 

[Halls]

i agree with cjane only if dad is not in jail. If he is in jail than I think you have a right to get your child back. But if he isn't than he still gets his visitation, but I'd still talk to a lawyer.

 

[mmtorres]

That sux, it seems so unfair....i don't want him to be around all that drama. Thank you so much for your comments, and advice. I truly appreciate it.

 

[CJane]

That sux, it seems so unfair....i don't want him to be around all that drama. Thank you so much for your comments, and advice. I truly appreciate it.

The thing is, it's not really a drama. Dad got pulled over for DUI, and got a few other citations for which he posted bond. The drama will begin if/when he goes to trial/jail. THEN you should talk to an attorney and see what, if anything, can be done. But until then, this is a traffic stop and not much more.

 

[mmtorres]

The DUI isn't the drama i was worried about , it's the drug citations, that i am concerned about. That's the drama i was hoping would let me pick him up asap.I understand exactly what your saying,about it not happening while my son was in his custody.Apparently he was also arrested in 2004 for a dui, and is going to court tommorow for that.I am learning this stuff second hand from my son, who is just now hearing it from an aunt, who gave me the link to the county to see the arrest sheet.What happens to my son if he goes to jail tommorow?

 

[Echo1]

What drama? Unless your child was with him when he was arrested, there IS no drama.

You have no grounds to cut the visit short. Your ex is imperfect (obviously, more so than some). But, this is HIS child and HIS court ordered visit. I highly doubt he and your son are talking 24/7 about Dads poor choices....which, by the way, are none of your business. Your ex is an adult and what he does in his time without his son around is nobodys business but his.

Had you not found out about his arrest in June, would you still be bothered about your child being there? Probably not, so try and relax. You posted that your SON just found about about this arrest, so I would just assume that if anything 'unseemly' is happening, he's old enough to call you.

Good luck...

 

[Echo1]

Does he have a court date tomorrow?

 

[mmtorres]

Thanks so much.

 

[acmb05]

Thanks so much.

Tell your idiot Aunt to stop discussing these things with the child.

 

[Silverplum]

Tell your idiot Aunt to stop discussing these things with the child.

My thoughts exactly.

Mom, you should remember that this is the man you chose as the father of your child.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Get copies of what happens in court today and then contact your attorney. If your child's father so choses, they can allow another responsible adult transport the child on thier time, just keep that in mind. You may file for midification, possibly to require certain things or testing, but be aware that you may also be subjected to the same limitations