backwardsrain
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I am a single dad raising 3 kids. My youngest son is 4, my other son is 6 and my daughter is 7.
She left on June 7th 2004 to be with an internet boyfriend who lives 500 miles away (in another state). She and I were never married and I have a full custody order by the court. It was my attorney who thought that if we send her an agreed entry plea with no child support order, then she would be more likely to sign it and custody would be as easy as a signature... he was right it was that easy. She signed then mailed the papers and it was done.
Here is my dilemma... I so need help with the expenses. I am falling so far behind it is going to affect my currently good credit. The daycare bill alone is $1100.00.
She still lives there (500 miles away) and is living with a different man. She does not work. Her boyfriend does not work. They currently have illegal housing... They are living in a house that is paid for by the state because the state thinks that another party lives there who qualifies for free housing. They have been living there since Last September and the state has not caught on. In August of 2004 she worked for a month at Wal-Mart. She claims that she is going to come back in a few months. She says she is 2 months pregnant now and she claims she has applied for jobs and is going to have 2 jobs in a few weeks in addition to some work she does off the record on the internet (web design). Her boyfriend is a total dead beat from what I can tell.
She basically left all of us behind to be with a guy who is NOT and never really was in her life (he was married).
The man she is seeing now is 5 years younger then her (he is 22), and has a criminal record for assault. He was arrested for hitting his ex-girlfriend less then a year ago. He pleaded guilty and has done a few months in jail.
I have a criminal record too. It was 8 years ago and it was theft.
I know that the only reason she would try and get custody would be if she was slapped with a child support order or if I don't let her do certain things with the kids like spend the night with her and he boyfriend. I am sorry there is no freakin way I would let my kids stay the night in the same house as this man. so ultimatly I think she will try and get custody just to gain control so she can do what she wants to do when she wants to do it.
I don't know how well I will fair if she tries to get custody. She is the mom and I am the dad and that alone is still looked at in favor of the mother. The fact that she just abandoned her kids for an internet boyfriend in another state… I am not sure how that will impact the case.
I am thinking when she does come back the kids will have been with me for 12 months. I read that 12 months of custody is a positive factor for me. Also she had 2 kids before I met her and she gave them up for adoption when they were 12 months and 2 years old. I am not sure that will play a roll in my favor. Further more, she tried to commit suicide this last November and she had to go to the hospital to have her stomach pumped. She sent me all types of suicide email saying things like “By the time you read this I will be dead”. She has not been treated for depression at all since that time.
She has only spoken to our kids via phone 5 times in 10 months. She didn't call on their birthdays and has not sent anything to them at all not even on Christmas. At one time she had a $600.00 tax refund and she didn't even send them anything. I am not sure how she could have gotten that much back with her not working… I am just going by what she said in her email.
So what do you think? Should I file an IWO with the court? (Go after child support) or do you think this is like a bees nest ...best left alone how it is?
If she has no income I know she can be made to pay, but how many months or how much defile on her part to the court must take place? I have read where she can be made to pay, but let’s be completely honest.... My attorney in the past told me because the Department of Job and Family Services is ran by women they just don't take a man seriously seeking child support.
So, will the court take seeking child support from a 2 month pregnant women who has not worked in 8 months seriously?
To add... I know it might cost $2000.00+ for her to retain an attorney to try and get custody, but I know that her mom (who lives in Nevada 2400 miles away) would help, so it is possible for her to file. So let me break it down.
Positive factors for me:
I have a full custody order now.
Kids have been with me 12 months.
She has no job and is basically stealing another’s welfare illegally.
I have worked at the same job 4 years.
She abandoned her kids (left the state) for another man.
She had 2 kids before I met her and she gave them up for adoption when they were 12 months and 2 years old.
She has had little contact (via phone) and has not contributed a red cent or toys since before June of 2004.
Her new live in boyfriend and the father of her unborn child has a criminal record for assault beating on his ex-girlfriend.
I have a house I own and have currently no live in girlfriend.
My not positive factors:
I have a criminal record for stealing 8 years ago.
What would you do if you were me. ???
Thank you !
I am a single dad raising 3 kids. My youngest son is 4, my other son is 6 and my daughter is 7.
She left on June 7th 2004 to be with an internet boyfriend who lives 500 miles away (in another state). She and I were never married and I have a full custody order by the court. It was my attorney who thought that if we send her an agreed entry plea with no child support order, then she would be more likely to sign it and custody would be as easy as a signature... he was right it was that easy. She signed then mailed the papers and it was done.
Here is my dilemma... I so need help with the expenses. I am falling so far behind it is going to affect my currently good credit. The daycare bill alone is $1100.00.
She still lives there (500 miles away) and is living with a different man. She does not work. Her boyfriend does not work. They currently have illegal housing... They are living in a house that is paid for by the state because the state thinks that another party lives there who qualifies for free housing. They have been living there since Last September and the state has not caught on. In August of 2004 she worked for a month at Wal-Mart. She claims that she is going to come back in a few months. She says she is 2 months pregnant now and she claims she has applied for jobs and is going to have 2 jobs in a few weeks in addition to some work she does off the record on the internet (web design). Her boyfriend is a total dead beat from what I can tell.
She basically left all of us behind to be with a guy who is NOT and never really was in her life (he was married).
The man she is seeing now is 5 years younger then her (he is 22), and has a criminal record for assault. He was arrested for hitting his ex-girlfriend less then a year ago. He pleaded guilty and has done a few months in jail.
I have a criminal record too. It was 8 years ago and it was theft.
I know that the only reason she would try and get custody would be if she was slapped with a child support order or if I don't let her do certain things with the kids like spend the night with her and he boyfriend. I am sorry there is no freakin way I would let my kids stay the night in the same house as this man. so ultimatly I think she will try and get custody just to gain control so she can do what she wants to do when she wants to do it.
I don't know how well I will fair if she tries to get custody. She is the mom and I am the dad and that alone is still looked at in favor of the mother. The fact that she just abandoned her kids for an internet boyfriend in another state… I am not sure how that will impact the case.
I am thinking when she does come back the kids will have been with me for 12 months. I read that 12 months of custody is a positive factor for me. Also she had 2 kids before I met her and she gave them up for adoption when they were 12 months and 2 years old. I am not sure that will play a roll in my favor. Further more, she tried to commit suicide this last November and she had to go to the hospital to have her stomach pumped. She sent me all types of suicide email saying things like “By the time you read this I will be dead”. She has not been treated for depression at all since that time.
She has only spoken to our kids via phone 5 times in 10 months. She didn't call on their birthdays and has not sent anything to them at all not even on Christmas. At one time she had a $600.00 tax refund and she didn't even send them anything. I am not sure how she could have gotten that much back with her not working… I am just going by what she said in her email.
So what do you think? Should I file an IWO with the court? (Go after child support) or do you think this is like a bees nest ...best left alone how it is?
If she has no income I know she can be made to pay, but how many months or how much defile on her part to the court must take place? I have read where she can be made to pay, but let’s be completely honest.... My attorney in the past told me because the Department of Job and Family Services is ran by women they just don't take a man seriously seeking child support.
So, will the court take seeking child support from a 2 month pregnant women who has not worked in 8 months seriously?
To add... I know it might cost $2000.00+ for her to retain an attorney to try and get custody, but I know that her mom (who lives in Nevada 2400 miles away) would help, so it is possible for her to file. So let me break it down.
Positive factors for me:
I have a full custody order now.
Kids have been with me 12 months.
She has no job and is basically stealing another’s welfare illegally.
I have worked at the same job 4 years.
She abandoned her kids (left the state) for another man.
She had 2 kids before I met her and she gave them up for adoption when they were 12 months and 2 years old.
She has had little contact (via phone) and has not contributed a red cent or toys since before June of 2004.
Her new live in boyfriend and the father of her unborn child has a criminal record for assault beating on his ex-girlfriend.
I have a house I own and have currently no live in girlfriend.
My not positive factors:
I have a criminal record for stealing 8 years ago.
What would you do if you were me. ???
Thank you !
