EvilEmpryss
Junior Member
Silverplum, I was in the military for ten years, got out in 2003, and I now help veterans obtain benefits, so I'm pretty well versed in them. The only thing I wasn't certain of I clearly stated so, so please don't try calling me to task on that.
Yes, I realized I was responding to Grandma. That was why I constantly referred to the mother rather than saying "you". As the legal guardian of a 17 year old minor, though, she is perfectly within her rights to contact the Shirt about the relationship between the two. If the girl was 18 she would have no right. Again, I emphasized in bold that she be absolutely certain about the paternity before contacting the guy's boss. And as a matter of fact, the Shirts deal with family issues all the time and can and will step in to see things are straightened out amicably (while protecting the military member, of course). If the guy accepts the paternity of the child, no court order is needed. If he allows his name to be put on the birth certificate and signs it, he will be the legal father of the child and the military will provide benefits to the baby. They will not provide benefits to the mother unless she is his wife, though, and since he is already married that just isn't going to happen. As the birth is usually considered to be a medical expense of the mother's, I don't think the birthing bills will be covered (this is more an insurance issue; looking at my civilian hospital birthing bills my expenses were billed separately from my son's, which began the moment he drew breath). All expenses the baby incurs once it is delivered, though, are billed in its name and therefore will be covered by its benefits -- *if* the guy accepts paternity.
As for the court ordered support, if the child is legally his, then the military will give him benefits for it. If the court orders him to support the child but it isn't his (weird, but it happens, especially with step children) then the military will not provide any pay or benefits for the child. It must be his by paternity or adoption for the military to do anything for it. My point was that if he's ordered to support the child by a court, he'll have to do it even if the military won't grant him benefits for it.
Your final comment was actually support of mine, so I haven't a clue why you nit-picked it. I agree that the girl doesn't deserve the benefits, but as the mother of a minor dependent of a military member, she *might* be granted base privileges *if* she can show she needs them for the baby's support. As I said, in this hyper-alert time of terrorist activity it isn't likely to happen since she can get medical care, clothes, and groceries off base with any child support being provided. When the kid is older it might qualify for its own ID, but only until it's 18th birthday.
Since I didn't see you or anyone else providing any constructive advice regarding the baby's benefits or the relationship the mother will *have* to have with the father of her baby -- much less warning her that if she costs this guy his job she can kiss any potential benefits from the military goodbye -- I don't see your snipes at my expense as all that funny. I listed facts that I know to be true from experience with the military system of benefits. If you know better, please cite your references.
Yes, I realized I was responding to Grandma. That was why I constantly referred to the mother rather than saying "you". As the legal guardian of a 17 year old minor, though, she is perfectly within her rights to contact the Shirt about the relationship between the two. If the girl was 18 she would have no right. Again, I emphasized in bold that she be absolutely certain about the paternity before contacting the guy's boss. And as a matter of fact, the Shirts deal with family issues all the time and can and will step in to see things are straightened out amicably (while protecting the military member, of course). If the guy accepts the paternity of the child, no court order is needed. If he allows his name to be put on the birth certificate and signs it, he will be the legal father of the child and the military will provide benefits to the baby. They will not provide benefits to the mother unless she is his wife, though, and since he is already married that just isn't going to happen. As the birth is usually considered to be a medical expense of the mother's, I don't think the birthing bills will be covered (this is more an insurance issue; looking at my civilian hospital birthing bills my expenses were billed separately from my son's, which began the moment he drew breath). All expenses the baby incurs once it is delivered, though, are billed in its name and therefore will be covered by its benefits -- *if* the guy accepts paternity.
As for the court ordered support, if the child is legally his, then the military will give him benefits for it. If the court orders him to support the child but it isn't his (weird, but it happens, especially with step children) then the military will not provide any pay or benefits for the child. It must be his by paternity or adoption for the military to do anything for it. My point was that if he's ordered to support the child by a court, he'll have to do it even if the military won't grant him benefits for it.
Your final comment was actually support of mine, so I haven't a clue why you nit-picked it. I agree that the girl doesn't deserve the benefits, but as the mother of a minor dependent of a military member, she *might* be granted base privileges *if* she can show she needs them for the baby's support. As I said, in this hyper-alert time of terrorist activity it isn't likely to happen since she can get medical care, clothes, and groceries off base with any child support being provided. When the kid is older it might qualify for its own ID, but only until it's 18th birthday.
Since I didn't see you or anyone else providing any constructive advice regarding the baby's benefits or the relationship the mother will *have* to have with the father of her baby -- much less warning her that if she costs this guy his job she can kiss any potential benefits from the military goodbye -- I don't see your snipes at my expense as all that funny. I listed facts that I know to be true from experience with the military system of benefits. If you know better, please cite your references.