What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
Long story short, my ex husband and his current wife are getting divorced. For the last year his wife has provided daycare for my daughter with my ex, as well as for my stepdaughter and my two sons with my new husband. She is a fully licensed in-home provider and since she and my ex have a son, my daughter gets to spend a lot of time with her half-brother. I would like to keep all the children together in their current daycare, but my ex is stating that he wants our daughter in a new daycare (he also wants the other 3 kids in my home in different daycare, but realizes that he has no power in that regard). Since the daycare has been utilized on my parenting time does he really have any say? Our court order says the most dreaded of phrases "childcare provider shall be chosen as parties agree" so I fear this may go to court. I mostly think that since he is required to pay for 100% daycare costs he thinks he has final say, and he just doesn't want to pay his soon to be ex any more money for anything. Before the split his wife watched our daughter for free and my DH and I paid for daycare for the other 3 children, since he has moved out of their home I have been paying for daughter and saving the receipts for reimbursement, per the court order. He maintains that since he doesn't agree to the daycare provider anymore that he doesn't need to reimburse me. If it was just our daughter it would be one thing, but I would be looking at trying to find 4 overnights of daycare a month for 4 kids, including twins under 2 and a child who has special needs, which is pretty much impossible.
Also, can he use time that his wife has been utilized for daycare for our daughter as 'status quo' to gain more court-ordered time and have his child support reduced? Typically all the kids (DD, my step daughter and my 2 sons) spend 4 overnights a month at the daycare, though he was not always home when this occurred. He wants to be given child support credit for these 4 nights though he has already told me that he probably won't be able to take DD for any extra nights right now, which would leave me short on child support plus paying for daycare that he won't reimburse me for.
Long story short, my ex husband and his current wife are getting divorced. For the last year his wife has provided daycare for my daughter with my ex, as well as for my stepdaughter and my two sons with my new husband. She is a fully licensed in-home provider and since she and my ex have a son, my daughter gets to spend a lot of time with her half-brother. I would like to keep all the children together in their current daycare, but my ex is stating that he wants our daughter in a new daycare (he also wants the other 3 kids in my home in different daycare, but realizes that he has no power in that regard). Since the daycare has been utilized on my parenting time does he really have any say? Our court order says the most dreaded of phrases "childcare provider shall be chosen as parties agree" so I fear this may go to court. I mostly think that since he is required to pay for 100% daycare costs he thinks he has final say, and he just doesn't want to pay his soon to be ex any more money for anything. Before the split his wife watched our daughter for free and my DH and I paid for daycare for the other 3 children, since he has moved out of their home I have been paying for daughter and saving the receipts for reimbursement, per the court order. He maintains that since he doesn't agree to the daycare provider anymore that he doesn't need to reimburse me. If it was just our daughter it would be one thing, but I would be looking at trying to find 4 overnights of daycare a month for 4 kids, including twins under 2 and a child who has special needs, which is pretty much impossible.
Also, can he use time that his wife has been utilized for daycare for our daughter as 'status quo' to gain more court-ordered time and have his child support reduced? Typically all the kids (DD, my step daughter and my 2 sons) spend 4 overnights a month at the daycare, though he was not always home when this occurred. He wants to be given child support credit for these 4 nights though he has already told me that he probably won't be able to take DD for any extra nights right now, which would leave me short on child support plus paying for daycare that he won't reimburse me for.