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I have an ex whom I have two kids with. We live in seperate states and they come to my house with suitcases full of unmatched clotes that are old and four sizes too big and shoes that are too small. They are dirty even when we meet to pick them up for the summer, not like playing outside dirty but like not washed dirty. They are 4 now and they aren't potty trained. She also does other little things like shaving their heads because she won't get them haircuts. Little things that hit me as increddibly low class.
They are here for the summer and she calls sporadically but we can't even find her. I called her father's house and her step-mother told me that they don't know where she is either. She doesn't even have a place to live; she just has a cell phone. She was living in an apartment belonging her father and they kicked her out because she trashed the place and they were living in squalor.
I want to go back to court to do something about it but I don't even know what I can do. She fought to have the right to provide their health and dental insurance (increased child support) but she doesn't keep a job more than a month or two so I'm already down 500 for a trip to the emergency room this summer. They need to go to the dentist and I can't afford to do it. Every conversation with her about insurance cards or where she works leads to some not very well strung lie like "I already mailed them."
I live in fear of telling her I work because she tries to milk me for money every possible chance. When I moved here I quit my job in another state and intended to work part-time and go to college (I'm college age, not return to college) and so we went to court. Even though I was unemployed it was based on my last job (which was pretty good) because I "quit" and hers was based on unemployment because she was "fired." Every time we have been to court she is nominally employed and paying through the nose for day care and then two weeks or a month later she says she is still employed but you can catch her at home any time of any day. They are about to start school but if we go back to court she will probably work nights for that two week job. Consistently getting cheated on child support pisses me off but the real frustrating thing is there is nothing I can do.
She would pretty much let them stay with me an extra month or two in the summer but I can't afford it. Child Support, Day Care, Medical Care, they damn sure can't where the nasty, dirty clothes she sent, sick, not potty trained, horribly behaved, and need to go to the dentist. I don't want them to go home and live (wherever it is she's going to live next) and not be made to go to school and live in a dirty house and wear shoes that are to small and sleep on the floor when I pay her (probably) plenty enough to take care of them well. I spent 15K on a custody battle 2 years ago and got smoked. She had everybody fooled, and then two months later she had no job again and 6 months later the kids were sleeping on the floor again. I can't afford to fight (using lawyers) again for a couple of years and she tottally doesn't take care of them. What can I do? I can get attendance records next year but what help will that be when she moves every three months? I (of course) can't get her W-2's to prove she doesn't work, I'd try to prove the day care but it's always some lady working out of her house instead of some organized day care.
What is it going to take to have the courts recognize her as a deadbeat and how do I get it? I don't want to have to wait until they fall down some stairs or get frostbite or something for them to realize shes a worthless mom.
Please Help,
Brett
They are here for the summer and she calls sporadically but we can't even find her. I called her father's house and her step-mother told me that they don't know where she is either. She doesn't even have a place to live; she just has a cell phone. She was living in an apartment belonging her father and they kicked her out because she trashed the place and they were living in squalor.
I want to go back to court to do something about it but I don't even know what I can do. She fought to have the right to provide their health and dental insurance (increased child support) but she doesn't keep a job more than a month or two so I'm already down 500 for a trip to the emergency room this summer. They need to go to the dentist and I can't afford to do it. Every conversation with her about insurance cards or where she works leads to some not very well strung lie like "I already mailed them."
I live in fear of telling her I work because she tries to milk me for money every possible chance. When I moved here I quit my job in another state and intended to work part-time and go to college (I'm college age, not return to college) and so we went to court. Even though I was unemployed it was based on my last job (which was pretty good) because I "quit" and hers was based on unemployment because she was "fired." Every time we have been to court she is nominally employed and paying through the nose for day care and then two weeks or a month later she says she is still employed but you can catch her at home any time of any day. They are about to start school but if we go back to court she will probably work nights for that two week job. Consistently getting cheated on child support pisses me off but the real frustrating thing is there is nothing I can do.
She would pretty much let them stay with me an extra month or two in the summer but I can't afford it. Child Support, Day Care, Medical Care, they damn sure can't where the nasty, dirty clothes she sent, sick, not potty trained, horribly behaved, and need to go to the dentist. I don't want them to go home and live (wherever it is she's going to live next) and not be made to go to school and live in a dirty house and wear shoes that are to small and sleep on the floor when I pay her (probably) plenty enough to take care of them well. I spent 15K on a custody battle 2 years ago and got smoked. She had everybody fooled, and then two months later she had no job again and 6 months later the kids were sleeping on the floor again. I can't afford to fight (using lawyers) again for a couple of years and she tottally doesn't take care of them. What can I do? I can get attendance records next year but what help will that be when she moves every three months? I (of course) can't get her W-2's to prove she doesn't work, I'd try to prove the day care but it's always some lady working out of her house instead of some organized day care.
What is it going to take to have the courts recognize her as a deadbeat and how do I get it? I don't want to have to wait until they fall down some stairs or get frostbite or something for them to realize shes a worthless mom.
Please Help,
Brett