Defamation of Character?

[cadguy16]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

Somebody has contacted our county Department of Social Services with a complaint against me. They told them that I scream and yell all the time, and I seem very violent! They told the Social Worker that they fear I may be abusing my wife and children.

First of all, since when does screaming at your kids constitute Domestic Violence? Sure, I scream and yell at my 7-year old daughter all the time! I scream at her because she is a "Spoiled Brat", and does not do a dam thing we asker her to do! If you want her to do something, like leaving her younger brother alone, you have to scream at her!

Second, I have been married going on 10 years. I have never beaten my wife or my kids, and do you want to know why? Because I will go to jail that's why! If I get mad, I yell and I scream.

I understand this persons (tattletale) concern, but until you actually see me hitting my wife or kids, mind your own dam business! What really has me mad is the fact that the Department of Social Services will not tell me who my accuser is. It seems they are protected by some sort of a right. Well, what about my right to face my accuser. That is in the Constitution, is it not? What about Defamation of Character, and Slander? This person has said bad things about me that are not true, what rights do I have?

Thanks,

Cadguy2

 

[CdwJava]

Unless you are charged and go to court, you will not be able to face your accuser. And, no, it's not slander or defamation, so that route won't work either.

Rein in the anger and move on. If someone is coming after you for something, retain legal counsel. If they are investigating a complaint and that's it, then chances are once they are done, they will be out of your hair. And since they are obligated to follow up the allegation, they have to ask a few questions. If you blow up or get ticked off at the investigators, you may prove the accuser's point for them.

Good luck.

- Carl

 

[BelizeBreeze]

You have no cause of action against someone filing a complaint where they preceive that a crime is being committed.

And any man who feels you "HAVE" to yell and scream at a child, regardless of the circumstances, is an idiot and prime candidate for counselling.

Take the hint

 

[stealth2]

If the only way you can get your kid (at 7) to do anything is to scream at her, how do you expect to discipline her when she's 16? Maybe you (and your wife) could use some parenting classes. It honestly doesn't take screaming and hitting to raise kids. And if she's a spoiled brat - it's because the two of you made her that way. Nice job.

 

[stealth2]

Oh, throw an anger management class in, too.

 

[cadguy16]

Thanks for the reply CdwJava. I appreciate your taking time to give me some advice.

cadguy16