Defamation of Character

[sdshaman]

I live outside of Albuquerque New Mexico. My 12 y/o son has been cut down by a certain teacher who does not like him. She punishes him for simple things such as detention for placing his water bottle on a chip another student left behind at lunch. She has pushed to have him tested for special ed, which he passed with no concerns, and her latest is (since we have pulled him from the school) talking bad about him to his friends.

She has always tried to find some sort of fault in him, bringing that to his attention and has had him held back a year.

Is there anything that I can do about this?

 

[Silverplum]

I live outside of Albuquerque New Mexico. My 12 y/o son has been cut down by a certain teacher who does not like him. She punishes him for simple things such as detention for placing his water bottle on a chip another student left behind at lunch. She has pushed to have him tested for special ed, which he passed with no concerns, and her latest is (since we have pulled him from the school) talking bad about him to his friends.

She has always tried to find some sort of fault in him, bringing that to his attention and has had him held back a year.

Is there anything that I can do about this?

I think you need to spend more time on your son's behavior and character, and much less time focusing on who ELSE you can blame.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/civil-litigation-46/simple-battery-511683.html

I live in New Mexico. My son was assaulted on the school bus by the bus driver. Apparently he targeted my son on several occasions, threatening to duct tape him is he didn't behave. 2 weeks ago the bus driver stopped the bus and approached my son, who was being a 12 y/o on the bus, and told him to settle down. My son did and when the bus driver was walking away he found a toy on a seat and threw it at my sons face, hitting him with it.

I confronted the bus driver and he admitted doing it. I then reported the incident to his supervisor who also confronted the bus driver, who again admitted that he had thrown something at him. The video on the bus mysteriously did not record. The bus driver then falsified a disciplinary report he filed against my son. He dated the report a day before he actually filed it making it look like he filed the report before I confronted him and his boss. He also put things on the report that were not true making it look like my son was a bad guy.

This report was given to the supervisor of the transportation as well as the principal of the school.

How should I proceed with this? I want something to be done because this act was wrong even if my child was misbehaving.

side note: There was a separate incident earlier in the year where the video would have shown fault. It to also mysteriously disappeared.

 

[Antigone*]

I think you need to spend more time on your son's behavior and character, and much less time focusing on who ELSE you can blame.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/civil-litigation-46/simple-battery-511683.html

Big time ditto on this one!!!

 

[Zigner]

She has pushed to have him tested for special ed, which he passed with no concerns...

Exactly what does this mean? Psycho-educational testing is not a "pass/fail" matter...

 

[Antigone*]

Exactly what does this mean? Psycho-educational testing is not a "pass/fail" matter...

It means that mom is out of touch with reality...

 

[Humusluvr]

I live outside of Albuquerque New Mexico. My 12 y/o son has been cut down by a certain teacher who does not like him. She punishes him for simple things such as detention for placing his water bottle on a chip another student left behind at lunch. She has pushed to have him tested for special ed, which he passed with no concerns, and her latest is (since we have pulled him from the school) talking bad about him to his friends.

She has always tried to find some sort of fault in him, bringing that to his attention and has had him held back a year.

Is there anything that I can do about this?

Legally, no.

In a parenting context, you should talk with son about how to reign in his behavior and not get detention. That's a fact of life all children need to learn - actions have consequences.

You might also observe at the school, which I believe most schools encourage. Sometimes, having a parent in the classroom, makes the child understand that if they don't control themselves, "Mommy has to sit in the back of the class to watch Junior." Kids hate to have "mommy" lurking, so it is often effective.

I think you can probably understand that Junior is not innocent in this whole thing, blaming his consequences on everyone else. Having a parent believe that exacerbates the problem. Take a no-nonsense approach to Junior's behavior.