I know many custodial fathers. This issue wasn't Mothers vs. Fathers. You were dealing with an unfit Mother~ but just as many deal with unfit Fathers. Your stereotypes scream hypocrisy, as you rail against ones you perceive...yet throw your own all over the place at the same time.singledaddytwo said:Ya know, first of all, I could care less about YOUR opinion of me. You don't know me, just like the judges who make unjust decisions that don't know the individual person that gets the raw deal. Society has taught us to believe that FATHERS are not adequate enough to raise their children by themselves because SOCIETY as a whole has the mentality of a "rock". Most can't think for themselves and need other people to run their lives for them. I DON'T. Just for instance, if I was put in front of a woman judge who had a man put her through the mill in her own personal situation..I would be a sitting duck just because I am a man. If I was put in front of a male judge who's sister was taken through the mud by her ex, I would again ....be a sitting duck, because I'm a man. Women and men alike label the opposite sex based on personal experiences....judges and attorneys are no different. Someone's quote on here is "If at first you don't succeed, failure may be your thing". HAAAAAAA, ADVICE FORUM??? I was always taught if at first you don't succeed, TRY AGAIN, but just like so many in this forum were asking me to GIVE UP, I refused and look what it got me. You can think of me what you want but the TRUTH IS, Regardless of how good or bad of a parent I am...IN YOUR EYES, THE CHILDRENS OWN MOTHER, you know, the one who is considered the "BEST" parent by society, is the one who RELINQUISHED HER RIGHTS WITH NO FIGHTING ON MY PART. She just knows I am one with convictions and I don't and won't lie under a rock for NOBODY if my beliefs are strong enough to argue. Do I always have to be right? No , I don't and am not afraid to admit when I'm wrong which I have done on many occasions, but with every breath in my body I would debate you on WHO IS THE BETTER PARENT HERE and regardless of how much LAW KNOWLEDGE YOU HAVE, I would win. The reason you find it so hard to believe that I am a good father is because you yourself as a parent probably suck or you don't even have children. Or........I am not a good father to you because you, high and mighty lawman/woman gave pisspoor advice and can't admit to that. Go ahead, keep telling the guys to give up in fighting for the children they TRULY love and be part of the MANY who will run the children in society in the ground as a result.Maybe then you can add your name to the list of many who are RESPONSIBLE for the outcome of the children who followed their drug addicted, alcoholic, partying mamas footseps. Something to be REAL PROUD OF HUH? Everyone wants to say that children do this and do that because they were "raised around it" but yet lifestyles don't play a part in deciding what is in "the best interest of the child". Regardless of how "trashy" I talk, my children are not watching me TYPE this and I certainly don't cuss in front of them ...........and certainly wouldn't BRAG about it if I did....like some here have. Ya know, I somehow knew that YOU would be the one to POST a negative reply to my outcome.....simply because I didn't BOW DOWN to your advice from the get-go, and pity any who do. Sure laws are laws but laws can be changed if enough people would get a backbone and make it happen instead of just thinkin, " Hmmmmm, so thats the norm". Thats what you call a "dictatorship" My constitutional rights in this country have taken me a long way and you nor anyone else will get me to "roll over" and look the other way just because it has "worked" for so many others NOT like me. I take great pride in being a parent and taking your ill advice would have went against everything I stand for where parenting is concerned so go find someone else with a similar situation.paint him up with rosy cheeks, lipstick , a fat red nose and a goofy hat and see if he will take your advice. He'd have to be a clown.....just so happens , I'm not. And you do this for a living? It would be wonderful to go back and see the results of past advice you have given. I live by the saying "YOUR LIFE SITUATION IS A RESULT OF DECISIONS YOU HAVE MADE IN YOUR LIFE" If advice you are given does not seem like it is good advice..Don't take it, because most times, it's not.
You were given advice on what IS and what is NOT considered "evidence" &/or "proof" in order to win your case. Instead of listening you crawled up on a tangential soapbox and became irate when others didn't join you.
You are not getting custody because you 'won' according to your holier than thou beliefs~ you are getting custody because the Mother is relinquishing it, voluntarily. I do believe if a parent is willing to give up custody- then it's best they do...children need commited parents. However, even though you may be the 'more fit' parent in this equation~ you'd do your daughters well to keep your Narcissism & Judgements in check. Otherwise, your little girls will grow up and attach themselves to men who look down on them- and whom they'll never please or be appreciated by.