cherylsarah01
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
Another thread from me. Thank you all in advance. 50/50 joint legal and physical custody of 8 year old daughter. Co-parenting plan in place by judge. One week with me and one week with dad. Both parents remarried.
Backround, it was the day of my daughter's 8th birthday. For some reason we did not get her birthday put into the custody papers as to every other year or odd or even years who would have her. So for the past few years her birthday has been falling on dad's weeks. I have always given her a flower and balloon in the morning for when she woke up but save her big present for when she is with me. Before ex remarried he loved this little tradition I had for her and my daughter loves it. He has been remarried for last year so this is my daugher's first birthday with her stepmom.
I left flowers and a balloon on doorstep for my daughter. I got out and left car running. I did not knock, look in windows or hang around as I really was trying to respect their home, family and time. Only time I am ever there is when I pick her up and they have told me I am not allowed out of my car, so I honk and she comes running out.
Stepmom emailed me nasty email saying she is going to try and get a restraining order put on me. She said absolutely no items from me or my house is to be allowed there. My daughter is not allowed to bring her favorite stuffed animal or ipod or anything else when she goes to her dad's. She cries, I feel upset, trying to understand.
My question, did I do anything wrong? If I did please tell me. I will not be doing that ever again though. Also, I believe if the items are my daughter's and she uses and enjoys them and she benefits from them and gets comfort shouldn't she be able to put them in her backpack and be able to freely take them back and forth? They are not my items they are hers. I am trying to get a no third party interference put on but what I did is that going to look bad to a judge?
Thank you
Another thread from me. Thank you all in advance. 50/50 joint legal and physical custody of 8 year old daughter. Co-parenting plan in place by judge. One week with me and one week with dad. Both parents remarried.
Backround, it was the day of my daughter's 8th birthday. For some reason we did not get her birthday put into the custody papers as to every other year or odd or even years who would have her. So for the past few years her birthday has been falling on dad's weeks. I have always given her a flower and balloon in the morning for when she woke up but save her big present for when she is with me. Before ex remarried he loved this little tradition I had for her and my daughter loves it. He has been remarried for last year so this is my daugher's first birthday with her stepmom.
I left flowers and a balloon on doorstep for my daughter. I got out and left car running. I did not knock, look in windows or hang around as I really was trying to respect their home, family and time. Only time I am ever there is when I pick her up and they have told me I am not allowed out of my car, so I honk and she comes running out.
Stepmom emailed me nasty email saying she is going to try and get a restraining order put on me. She said absolutely no items from me or my house is to be allowed there. My daughter is not allowed to bring her favorite stuffed animal or ipod or anything else when she goes to her dad's. She cries, I feel upset, trying to understand.
My question, did I do anything wrong? If I did please tell me. I will not be doing that ever again though. Also, I believe if the items are my daughter's and she uses and enjoys them and she benefits from them and gets comfort shouldn't she be able to put them in her backpack and be able to freely take them back and forth? They are not my items they are hers. I am trying to get a no third party interference put on but what I did is that going to look bad to a judge?
Thank you
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