What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
Hello all. I'm actually writing this for a friend. I know how you all feel about 3rd parties, and if necessary I will have my friend create his own account. I will stick to the details and leave as much emotion out as possible.
My friend has recently discovered that his wife has been cheating on him with her boss for at least the last five years. He has proof (a co-worker of hers walked in on them at the office while they were having sex). His wife and her boss have been confronted about it, and they continue to deny anything is going on. Her boss is married as well for over 30 years. His business is worth a lot of money and my friend is guessing that they're both still denying their affair because if they admit it, her boss' wife will divorce him and get half of everything he has (including his business).
My friend has stated to me that the only thing that's important to him is their children. They have four...a girl (20) who is married and lives with her husband. They also have three boys (15, 13 and 8). For the last few years, my friend's wife has been working until at least 8 or 9 o'clock at night. She spends every available moment she can at the office. She's never around for any of her children. My friend is a VERY hands on parent and has become both mom and dad to their boys. He takes them to all their appointments, sports practices, etc. He feeds them, cleans the house, and does all the shopping. He is 100% their primary caregiver. She doesn't do anything anymore except go to work at 9am and come home at 9pm. He has told me that their boys have said that they have come to hate their mom because she's never around for them and shows no interest in anything they do.
Unfortunately, she pays the bills and controls the money in their house. My friend has recently found out that she hasn't been paying the bills that are in his name only which has harmed his credit. He knows he can't stay with her, but he's afraid that with bad credit and no money he won't be able to provide for his boys. I told him that given the fact that he's established himself as the primary caregiver, if he were to divorce her, he would probably stand a good chance of getting custody of the boys. She makes substantially more money than he does. He has a full time job 5 minutes from home so he could be there for his kids if they need him. What are the chances that he will be able to obtain primary custody, child support and possibly alimony from his wife? He has no money, and is afraid that she will get custody of the kids simply because she's the mom. I told him that it doesn't really work that way anymore, and that the courts try to look at what's in the best interests of the child however he's still scared. My guess would be that he's also in a bit of shock.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. If you have any further questions, please feel free to ask. I will do what I can to get him to register here himself.
Hello all. I'm actually writing this for a friend. I know how you all feel about 3rd parties, and if necessary I will have my friend create his own account. I will stick to the details and leave as much emotion out as possible.
My friend has recently discovered that his wife has been cheating on him with her boss for at least the last five years. He has proof (a co-worker of hers walked in on them at the office while they were having sex). His wife and her boss have been confronted about it, and they continue to deny anything is going on. Her boss is married as well for over 30 years. His business is worth a lot of money and my friend is guessing that they're both still denying their affair because if they admit it, her boss' wife will divorce him and get half of everything he has (including his business).
My friend has stated to me that the only thing that's important to him is their children. They have four...a girl (20) who is married and lives with her husband. They also have three boys (15, 13 and 8). For the last few years, my friend's wife has been working until at least 8 or 9 o'clock at night. She spends every available moment she can at the office. She's never around for any of her children. My friend is a VERY hands on parent and has become both mom and dad to their boys. He takes them to all their appointments, sports practices, etc. He feeds them, cleans the house, and does all the shopping. He is 100% their primary caregiver. She doesn't do anything anymore except go to work at 9am and come home at 9pm. He has told me that their boys have said that they have come to hate their mom because she's never around for them and shows no interest in anything they do.
Unfortunately, she pays the bills and controls the money in their house. My friend has recently found out that she hasn't been paying the bills that are in his name only which has harmed his credit. He knows he can't stay with her, but he's afraid that with bad credit and no money he won't be able to provide for his boys. I told him that given the fact that he's established himself as the primary caregiver, if he were to divorce her, he would probably stand a good chance of getting custody of the boys. She makes substantially more money than he does. He has a full time job 5 minutes from home so he could be there for his kids if they need him. What are the chances that he will be able to obtain primary custody, child support and possibly alimony from his wife? He has no money, and is afraid that she will get custody of the kids simply because she's the mom. I told him that it doesn't really work that way anymore, and that the courts try to look at what's in the best interests of the child however he's still scared. My guess would be that he's also in a bit of shock.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. If you have any further questions, please feel free to ask. I will do what I can to get him to register here himself.
