divorce process and stuff.

[littlelamb579]

What is the name of your state? Florida.

Ok, as far as I know, one of us has to file for the divorce, other gets the papers and has to reply, court date, things like that.. Correct? The divorce according to many was supposed to cost $200, why is it all of a sudden $360? what could he have done to make it cost more, cuz he's not telling me. I feel like he's doing something behind my back to screw me.. I cant afford a divorce otherwise I'd do it myself, I have no job and am 7 months pregnant, kid isnt his, and I wasnt with him when I concieved, it was well after I left him. My new boyfriend has been supporting me since I got kicked out of my husbands parents house, as that was where we had been staying for most of our marriage. He still lives there, with his new girlfriend who he's trying to knock up, they are both 18. I'm 20. When I left he told me that he'd take me to court if I took everything I paid for during the marriage including a second computer and $700 worth of books. The computer costed about $1000. for someone with no job, that's a big loss. OK so, what could he be planning that's taking more time and money? I want to be a little prepared for what could be coming. Anyone? PLEASE no rude comments.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Florida.

Ok, as far as I know, one of us has to file for the divorce, other gets the papers and has to reply, court date, things like that.. Correct? The divorce according to many was supposed to cost $200, why is it all of a sudden $360? what could he have done to make it cost more, cuz he's not telling me. I feel like he's doing something behind my back to screw me.. I cant afford a divorce otherwise I'd do it myself, I have no job and am 7 months pregnant, kid isnt his, and I wasnt with him when I concieved, it was well after I left him. My new boyfriend has been supporting me since I got kicked out of my husbands parents house, as that was where we had been staying for most of our marriage. He still lives there, with his new girlfriend who he's trying to knock up, they are both 18. I'm 20. When I left he told me that he'd take me to court if I took everything I paid for during the marriage including a second computer and $700 worth of books. The computer costed about $1000. for someone with no job, that's a big loss. OK so, what could he be planning that's taking more time and money? I want to be a little prepared for what could be coming. Anyone? PLEASE no rude comments.

Did you take your belongingss when you moved out?...I hope so because he was BS'ing you about taking you to court for taking your personal belongings.

In any case, it doesn't sound like you have any children or assets, and you are not using an attorney so there is really very little that he can do to mess you up. You do realize that if he is the one who filed that you have no obligation to reimburse him any of that money? Make sure that you ask the judge or order that he give you any specific belongings that you left there when you respond.

 

[littlelamb579]

no I didnt take the stuff he said he'd take me to court over, and my new fiance told me not to worry about it when we go to court, cuz then it would take longer to get it over with cuz then we would have things we were fighting over.. It's not such a big deal other than I paid for it all, and supported him the whole way through other than his parents supporting us, and it doesnt seem fair that I have to waste all the money, that I got for pain and suffering from an accident claim. My main question was why it would cost $160 more than we initially thought? and why cant he get legal aid? when I can if I file? I think that's it.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? Florida.

Ok, as far as I know, one of us has to file for the divorce, other gets the papers and has to reply, court date, things like that.. Correct? The divorce according to many was supposed to cost $200, why is it all of a sudden $360? what could he have done to make it cost more, cuz he's not telling me. I feel like he's doing something behind my back to screw me.. I cant afford a divorce otherwise I'd do it myself, I have no job and am 7 months pregnant, kid isnt his, and I wasnt with him when I concieved, it was well after I left him. My new boyfriend has been supporting me since I got kicked out of my husbands parents house, as that was where we had been staying for most of our marriage. He still lives there, with his new girlfriend who he's trying to knock up, they are both 18. I'm 20. When I left he told me that he'd take me to court if I took everything I paid for during the marriage including a second computer and $700 worth of books. The computer costed about $1000. for someone with no job, that's a big loss. OK so, what could he be planning that's taking more time and money? I want to be a little prepared for what could be coming. Anyone? PLEASE no rude comments.

The cost of filing most court actions in Florida have recently increased, so I would assume that the $360.00 is the filing fee. You can call or go to the court clerk's office to ask what the filing fee is, and you may want to ask what it used to be and when it was increased.

 

[dallas702]

Let it process through. If you're not going to file an answer, you can state your case to the judge when you get to court. 1- Tell the judge that the property you acquired during the marriage was "XYZ" (give him a list of everything with what it is worth, or what it would cost you to replace it). 2- Tell the judge you cannot afford court costs. Your ex will probably have to pay the whole amount (filing fees aren't like attorney costs...they seldom get split).

Beyond that, you need to take a serious look at your life. You're only 20. How about getting some more education, staying away from loser guys who only want to use you, and get out in the world for awhile until you find out what you really want. Men will come and go like busses. You need to get control of your own future.

Good luck.

 

[littlelamb579]

Beyond that, you need to take a serious look at your life. You're only 20. How about getting some more education, staying away from loser guys who only want to use you, and get out in the world for awhile until you find out what you really want. Men will come and go like busses. You need to get control of your own future.

Good luck.

Thank you so much for all your advice, and I thought I'd let you know that I have my high school diploma, AND a 2 year degree in early childhood education. Not much a guy can use me for unfortunately.