Here it goes. I am nervous. Never solicted online information regarding my situation before. Found this while googling to see if I have any options. I am in Ohio.
I have been divorced for 2.5 years. This divorce followed a 5 year affair that my husband had with a woman who he moved to my neighborhood from another state before I even knew the affair was occuring. This women joined my church, enrolled her child at my kids school, attended my work events, tried to continously contact me, followed me and visited my home while I was out of town. I think the background here speaks to my concern that I have regarding this woman and her abnormal behavior.
In addition, she was convicted of child endangering for leaving her young child alone and going out late at night. The child was found wondering outside. She returned 2 hours later and lied to police about having a babysitter.
Fast forward several years and she is now married to my ex. They have moved into my neighborhood where I have lived since I was 12 -I am now in my 40's. My point is that they are in my face despite many requests for distance which I feel is needed for peace. I feel this is harrassment and it is certainly not consistent with trying to create peace.
I really feel that this woman's behavior and history are very concerning. I fear her influence over my children is very detrimental. I feel my ex is very submissive to her and she is on some kind of plan to take over my life and kids.
My children are 13, 10 and 7.
She continously emails me despite being asked not to. She also contact my kid's teachers and stuff like that that i think is over-stepping.
She continuosuly tries to point to my parenting as being poor - things like my children not wearing proper coats when it is cold and wrinkeled clothes. Basically, ridiculous things that cause constant drama.
My ex and she have decided not to send kids (mostly my oldest son) to some extracurricular activities. Baseball, basketball, soccer, etc. - not really going over well for these guys. Unilateral decision without any discussion. They say it is because of grades although standards vary by kid. If grades are OK, they they point to attitude. This is mostly impacting my 13 old. He feels that they just don't want him to play because of the time commitment. Consequently, I have volunteered to handle all the running. And my son, does not want to be with his dad.
My ex will not even speak with me about anything so there is very poor communication. I have requested a parenting coordinator and he has refused. He tells me I have rehash issues and yell and scream. Early on this was true but it has not been true for more than 3 years. I just want peace and no matter what I do, I have chaos. If it isn't one thing, it is another. All the time. The stress in unbelievable and the anger for me and my children is growing.
I have engaged therapists to work with the kids and he refuses to let them go - revoked consent to treat. When asked why, he tells me the therapist "lied" to him but doesn't give more information.
I believe that this step parent is the reason for all of the continued problems. All email correspondance that we have, she is copied in on. She often then tries to engage me despite requests not to have to interact with her.
I want her interaction with me to stop. Do you think I am reasonable in my request and do I have a legal option and, if so, should I take it? I am desperate for some reprieve but son't want to make it worse if it could even be worse.
Do I have any possibility of a case that could change custoday? My children and I need peace and calm. This arangement perpetuates chaos and conflict. My previous attorney told me this would be difficult in court but I am really at my wits end. Any input woud be helpful.
I have been divorced for 2.5 years. This divorce followed a 5 year affair that my husband had with a woman who he moved to my neighborhood from another state before I even knew the affair was occuring. This women joined my church, enrolled her child at my kids school, attended my work events, tried to continously contact me, followed me and visited my home while I was out of town. I think the background here speaks to my concern that I have regarding this woman and her abnormal behavior.
In addition, she was convicted of child endangering for leaving her young child alone and going out late at night. The child was found wondering outside. She returned 2 hours later and lied to police about having a babysitter.
Fast forward several years and she is now married to my ex. They have moved into my neighborhood where I have lived since I was 12 -I am now in my 40's. My point is that they are in my face despite many requests for distance which I feel is needed for peace. I feel this is harrassment and it is certainly not consistent with trying to create peace.
I really feel that this woman's behavior and history are very concerning. I fear her influence over my children is very detrimental. I feel my ex is very submissive to her and she is on some kind of plan to take over my life and kids.
My children are 13, 10 and 7.
She continously emails me despite being asked not to. She also contact my kid's teachers and stuff like that that i think is over-stepping.
She continuosuly tries to point to my parenting as being poor - things like my children not wearing proper coats when it is cold and wrinkeled clothes. Basically, ridiculous things that cause constant drama.
My ex and she have decided not to send kids (mostly my oldest son) to some extracurricular activities. Baseball, basketball, soccer, etc. - not really going over well for these guys. Unilateral decision without any discussion. They say it is because of grades although standards vary by kid. If grades are OK, they they point to attitude. This is mostly impacting my 13 old. He feels that they just don't want him to play because of the time commitment. Consequently, I have volunteered to handle all the running. And my son, does not want to be with his dad.
My ex will not even speak with me about anything so there is very poor communication. I have requested a parenting coordinator and he has refused. He tells me I have rehash issues and yell and scream. Early on this was true but it has not been true for more than 3 years. I just want peace and no matter what I do, I have chaos. If it isn't one thing, it is another. All the time. The stress in unbelievable and the anger for me and my children is growing.
I have engaged therapists to work with the kids and he refuses to let them go - revoked consent to treat. When asked why, he tells me the therapist "lied" to him but doesn't give more information.
I believe that this step parent is the reason for all of the continued problems. All email correspondance that we have, she is copied in on. She often then tries to engage me despite requests not to have to interact with her.
I want her interaction with me to stop. Do you think I am reasonable in my request and do I have a legal option and, if so, should I take it? I am desperate for some reprieve but son't want to make it worse if it could even be worse.
Do I have any possibility of a case that could change custoday? My children and I need peace and calm. This arangement perpetuates chaos and conflict. My previous attorney told me this would be difficult in court but I am really at my wits end. Any input woud be helpful.