coolestdorkever
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
We were divorced in 2002. Visitation was set as "reasonable and seasonable" with no definate times or days. we had joint custody with me (mom) primary custody. a few years later dad got sole custody, visitation stayed the same. we have worked over the years with visitation scheduling with few problems.
In 2014 dad left "new" spouse of 10 years, moved out in jan or feb. Child remained with stepmom until Oct 2014-despite my dislikes and repeated attempts to discuss transitioning our child out of the home, only being told "shut up I will do it when I want to, Child is my kid and you cant tell me what to do." --this is how child got moved...It was my weekend for visitation. Dad called me on Wed. before to tell me "Child was going to kentucky with him so they could talk, would not be coming over." nothing more was said. Child was moved to his girlfriends home that monday. I still havent been told about this except through my child. (side note...girlfriend is also starting a divorce from an abusive ex that harrasses her children and the family home consistently. I fear for my childs safety while living there.)
since Oct my visitation has been denied completely twice and shortened in half numerous times. tonight I got an e-mail informing me all visits will "officially" be shortened in half from here on out. dad refuses to discuss make up time with me saying "I'll get back to you" or "we'll talk about it later." every time i try to talk about it. I even recently found he is awarding "my time" with our child to ex wife to gain more time with their 2 children in return.
What can I do to save my time with our child from being taken away at his whim and does this qualify as a sufficient change in circumstances to change his sole custody back to joint as well?
We were divorced in 2002. Visitation was set as "reasonable and seasonable" with no definate times or days. we had joint custody with me (mom) primary custody. a few years later dad got sole custody, visitation stayed the same. we have worked over the years with visitation scheduling with few problems.
In 2014 dad left "new" spouse of 10 years, moved out in jan or feb. Child remained with stepmom until Oct 2014-despite my dislikes and repeated attempts to discuss transitioning our child out of the home, only being told "shut up I will do it when I want to, Child is my kid and you cant tell me what to do." --this is how child got moved...It was my weekend for visitation. Dad called me on Wed. before to tell me "Child was going to kentucky with him so they could talk, would not be coming over." nothing more was said. Child was moved to his girlfriends home that monday. I still havent been told about this except through my child. (side note...girlfriend is also starting a divorce from an abusive ex that harrasses her children and the family home consistently. I fear for my childs safety while living there.)
since Oct my visitation has been denied completely twice and shortened in half numerous times. tonight I got an e-mail informing me all visits will "officially" be shortened in half from here on out. dad refuses to discuss make up time with me saying "I'll get back to you" or "we'll talk about it later." every time i try to talk about it. I even recently found he is awarding "my time" with our child to ex wife to gain more time with their 2 children in return.
What can I do to save my time with our child from being taken away at his whim and does this qualify as a sufficient change in circumstances to change his sole custody back to joint as well?