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OK...I had a Child Modification court the end of January, due to my ex not having medical insurance (never has) for the kids, so the Decree needed to be modified saying that they are on my husband's Health Insurance.
EXACTLY what I thought would happen did. He's always job hopped, but REALLY did big time last year, being unemployed over 1/2 the year. The $1600 that he did pay me to reimburse me some years ago (then stopped) was agreed to be paid back to me (since the Atty. Gen. office gave him credit for that amount). He has convinced the judge that due to his dyslexia, he can no longer hold a Auto CAD Draftsman job or find any other job other than being a church custodian (he lives just 30 min. from Austin!)...and his payments were reduced. The judge felt SO sorry for him...and went into the song and tap dance of a friend that he has that also has dyslexia.
This gets complicated. Of our 3 children, I only have the youngest, 15 yrs., at home now. The middle one (20 yrs) is in the Army, however my oldest, (22 yrs) is mentally disabled. She does live in an apartment (as of July of 2005), but my husband and I TOTALLY subsidize her living. We're trying to give her space (we needed it too!), and trying to help her to become self-sufficient in time. She currently is going to college, but through a Vocational Rehab. Program due to her mental illness. The deal was, for her to devote her complete attention to her studies (there's no way she can work and go to school...she can't hold down a full time job even WITHOUT school at this point), and we'd maintain her in an apartment. Once she gets through school, we feel she'll be able to find a job with an Assistant Therapist degree. As of now, she has extremely poor social skills (paranoia), has problems counting money, and her nerves gets frayed by small children, so finding any type of employment in this small town is next to none. I will say that she is a go-getter and is not lazy. She's tried her best to find work, and has worked in a child daycare, a bank (but had to be let go), and when she applies herself, she is a straight A kid. She's smart, but with Depression and a Bipolar disorder, she truly struggles.
The week prior to the court, the Atty. Gen. Office told me to bring proof of her disability to the court. I did and the judge threw a fit since my ex hadn't seen the Dr's. letter. I told him that I was TOLD to bring it and he said "By WHO??!!". I told him the Atty. Gen. office. I honestly felt like I was treated like crap! It shocked me! My ex acted like he had NO idea that his daughter had this problem, when in fact, I had told him in 2001 prior to her graduating since she needed a change of scenery and wanted to visit her father in Austin. He told me he'd "have to pray about it". We never heard back from him again, and I can't tell you what this did to her in the way of feeling rejected. Anyways....He DID know!! I informed the judge of that. The judge told me "Give the guy a break!!"...then my ex hissed "Yes...PLEASE!!"....I was so upset after I left from there! That judge has no clue how lazy my ex is, and what a liar he is. My daughter asked when I got home how the court went and I told her that her dad said he "didn't know" about her condition. She looked so disappointed and said, "Mom...I told him myself that I was receiving psychiatric counseling and I was on meds...in fact, we went and sat in the car to talk about it last year!".
The judge rescheduled another court date for April or May until I could provide more up-to-date "proof" (which I have), that our daughter is mentally disabled. (For someone who was SO concerned, her dad hasn't called her at all after the hearing). I'm so sorry this was so very long...but just needed to explain this before I asked this question...what are my chances of being reimbursed for all the medical expenses that came out of my pocket since we've been divorced? We divorced in 1995...I, however, have been the one to always provide health insurance and any medical bills. I've never submitted a copy of any medical bill to my ex. (I didn't know that I could!). The judge rolled his eyes and shrugged his shoulders like "Oh well...that's YOUR problem!". Now that I KNOW...the Assitant Atty. Gen. who was present at the hearing told me to gather medical receipts over the years that I have paid. Is there a statute of limitations on submitting these to my ex?
I wish that we had it in our budget to hire an atty...but we honestly can't at this point. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. I hope I didn't totally confuse you or rattle too much irrevalent info.
Thank you for your time.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
OK...I had a Child Modification court the end of January, due to my ex not having medical insurance (never has) for the kids, so the Decree needed to be modified saying that they are on my husband's Health Insurance.
EXACTLY what I thought would happen did. He's always job hopped, but REALLY did big time last year, being unemployed over 1/2 the year. The $1600 that he did pay me to reimburse me some years ago (then stopped) was agreed to be paid back to me (since the Atty. Gen. office gave him credit for that amount). He has convinced the judge that due to his dyslexia, he can no longer hold a Auto CAD Draftsman job or find any other job other than being a church custodian (he lives just 30 min. from Austin!)...and his payments were reduced. The judge felt SO sorry for him...and went into the song and tap dance of a friend that he has that also has dyslexia.
This gets complicated. Of our 3 children, I only have the youngest, 15 yrs., at home now. The middle one (20 yrs) is in the Army, however my oldest, (22 yrs) is mentally disabled. She does live in an apartment (as of July of 2005), but my husband and I TOTALLY subsidize her living. We're trying to give her space (we needed it too!), and trying to help her to become self-sufficient in time. She currently is going to college, but through a Vocational Rehab. Program due to her mental illness. The deal was, for her to devote her complete attention to her studies (there's no way she can work and go to school...she can't hold down a full time job even WITHOUT school at this point), and we'd maintain her in an apartment. Once she gets through school, we feel she'll be able to find a job with an Assistant Therapist degree. As of now, she has extremely poor social skills (paranoia), has problems counting money, and her nerves gets frayed by small children, so finding any type of employment in this small town is next to none. I will say that she is a go-getter and is not lazy. She's tried her best to find work, and has worked in a child daycare, a bank (but had to be let go), and when she applies herself, she is a straight A kid. She's smart, but with Depression and a Bipolar disorder, she truly struggles.
The week prior to the court, the Atty. Gen. Office told me to bring proof of her disability to the court. I did and the judge threw a fit since my ex hadn't seen the Dr's. letter. I told him that I was TOLD to bring it and he said "By WHO??!!". I told him the Atty. Gen. office. I honestly felt like I was treated like crap! It shocked me! My ex acted like he had NO idea that his daughter had this problem, when in fact, I had told him in 2001 prior to her graduating since she needed a change of scenery and wanted to visit her father in Austin. He told me he'd "have to pray about it". We never heard back from him again, and I can't tell you what this did to her in the way of feeling rejected. Anyways....He DID know!! I informed the judge of that. The judge told me "Give the guy a break!!"...then my ex hissed "Yes...PLEASE!!"....I was so upset after I left from there! That judge has no clue how lazy my ex is, and what a liar he is. My daughter asked when I got home how the court went and I told her that her dad said he "didn't know" about her condition. She looked so disappointed and said, "Mom...I told him myself that I was receiving psychiatric counseling and I was on meds...in fact, we went and sat in the car to talk about it last year!".
The judge rescheduled another court date for April or May until I could provide more up-to-date "proof" (which I have), that our daughter is mentally disabled. (For someone who was SO concerned, her dad hasn't called her at all after the hearing). I'm so sorry this was so very long...but just needed to explain this before I asked this question...what are my chances of being reimbursed for all the medical expenses that came out of my pocket since we've been divorced? We divorced in 1995...I, however, have been the one to always provide health insurance and any medical bills. I've never submitted a copy of any medical bill to my ex. (I didn't know that I could!). The judge rolled his eyes and shrugged his shoulders like "Oh well...that's YOUR problem!". Now that I KNOW...the Assitant Atty. Gen. who was present at the hearing told me to gather medical receipts over the years that I have paid. Is there a statute of limitations on submitting these to my ex?
I wish that we had it in our budget to hire an atty...but we honestly can't at this point. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. I hope I didn't totally confuse you or rattle too much irrevalent info.
Thank you for your time.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?