doctor changes

[blueboy]

What is the name of your state? CA
My daughter has been seeing a child theripist for a couple of years now. It took me 3 years to get my X to agree to this therapy. My daughter needs therapy due to abuse. Recently her therapist made duragatory remarks about my line of work. She told me in front of my daughter that flying dangerous and that she was anti-military. I am a pilot and in the Military. She recently gave my daughter permission to make report cards on me, her mom, and others in her life. However, my daughter told me she can't make report cards on her mom or other reletives on her mothers side becuase she will get punished. I want to switch therpists for the reasons I stated above. My X doesn't want to because she says she really likes this therapist. We have joint custody legal and physical. I don't want to go back to court and be told that this isn't that important. Should I leave things as they are or try to change them? Would I have a shot at getting her a different dr.?

 

[mrseld]

Sir, I don't now if this will help you make a decision, but here it is.

When my ex and I fist got divorced, we had joint custody. I tried to take our daughter to a therapist and the first thing the doctor said to me was, "Does your ex agree with me treating your daughter?" I said, "No. He doesn't." She said, "Then I can't treat her if he disagrees. When there is joint custody, I have to have the 'o.k.' from both parents. If not, I can't treat her." Therefore, I had to wait until he made so many mistakes in the following months that it afforded me the luxury of being awarded sole custody and supervised visits for my ex. BUT....I am in Tennessee. I'd ask an attorney in your area.

You agreed in the beginning on a therapist and now, because of your reasons, you've changed your mind. It may take a trip to court. Who knows? But if the therapist is making derrogatory remarks about you IN THE PRESENCE of your daughter.....then I would take issue with that. It's unprofessional and inappropriate. The therapist's personal feelings about the military have nothing to do with the treatment for your daughter.

She should have great respect for the military. It's people like you who have fought wars and died horrible deaths at the hands of some very horrible people so that she could live in the free world and bad mouth others. She better remember who's out there saving her lifestyle. Not to mention just being respectful to the parent of one of her clients.

My first husband was a Marine. I don't have much to say about him, but I have a great respect for the armed forces as a whole. You guys are the best as far as I'm concerned. Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines.....all you guys.

 

[blueboy]

Thank you.

It's hard enough raising a pre-teen without those remarks, but after she said those things it has gotten so much worse. I guess I should ask a lawyer. Thank you for your kind words.