documented physical abuse involved-husband moved from NC to CO-& wants Joint custody
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
North Carolina
Hi all. I've been searching posts in an attempt to find help without bogging down these forums. Thank you in advance for any answer.
Short version: In March 2015, I left the marital home when my husband assaulted me. It was not the first time. But it was been the last, thankfully. When that abuse was directed toward our newborns, I left and sought resources to protect us. He moved to Colorado in January 2016 to persue the military. He has visited 3 times in two years. He pays child support as outlined in our separation agreement (military makes sure he pays).
He is suddenly requesting joint custody. I was served on Friday. His lawyer drafted a "consent order" outlining that the children (3 years old) would stay with him in Colorado for 4 months in a row every year.
My concerns are obviously for their safety should be be allowed unsupervised time with him. One year ago, during a visit, he put them in his car and drove away. He called his brother to say "I have the girls and I'm leaving". I was in a panic and when I finally caught up with him, he acted as though nothing happened. I am quite worried about what he is up to.
My questions are mainly regarding our appointed court dates.
Can an active duty military father obtain custody from the mother (me) that has no evidence of being unfit? Moreover, he has a documented history of domestic violence toward the children and me.
The judge ordered a psychological evaluation two years ago during the DVPO hearing. He did not complete this.
I would like to request that he enroll and attend both parenting classes and anger management classes. Is that feasible?
I am so incredibly fearful that he will be granted unsupervised time with them. I'm afraid he will hurt them, or take them in hiding somewhere.
Does anyone have advice to organize and prepare? The mediation is set for November 6th. I dont have any residual money or even a credit card to secure an attorney. This is my worst fear unfolding. He has retained a lawyer here in NC and has sent me several messages that I need to contact them and sign the consent order, which I'm not comfortable doing.
Could he be required to pay for legal fees that I may have to take on? My only thought is perhaps a credit card to secure a lawyer and prayer that he is ordered to reimburse?
I apologize that my post is not organized well. I am having such a difficult time
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
North Carolina
Hi all. I've been searching posts in an attempt to find help without bogging down these forums. Thank you in advance for any answer.
Short version: In March 2015, I left the marital home when my husband assaulted me. It was not the first time. But it was been the last, thankfully. When that abuse was directed toward our newborns, I left and sought resources to protect us. He moved to Colorado in January 2016 to persue the military. He has visited 3 times in two years. He pays child support as outlined in our separation agreement (military makes sure he pays).
He is suddenly requesting joint custody. I was served on Friday. His lawyer drafted a "consent order" outlining that the children (3 years old) would stay with him in Colorado for 4 months in a row every year.
My concerns are obviously for their safety should be be allowed unsupervised time with him. One year ago, during a visit, he put them in his car and drove away. He called his brother to say "I have the girls and I'm leaving". I was in a panic and when I finally caught up with him, he acted as though nothing happened. I am quite worried about what he is up to.
My questions are mainly regarding our appointed court dates.
Can an active duty military father obtain custody from the mother (me) that has no evidence of being unfit? Moreover, he has a documented history of domestic violence toward the children and me.
The judge ordered a psychological evaluation two years ago during the DVPO hearing. He did not complete this.
I would like to request that he enroll and attend both parenting classes and anger management classes. Is that feasible?
I am so incredibly fearful that he will be granted unsupervised time with them. I'm afraid he will hurt them, or take them in hiding somewhere.
Does anyone have advice to organize and prepare? The mediation is set for November 6th. I dont have any residual money or even a credit card to secure an attorney. This is my worst fear unfolding. He has retained a lawyer here in NC and has sent me several messages that I need to contact them and sign the consent order, which I'm not comfortable doing.
Could he be required to pay for legal fees that I may have to take on? My only thought is perhaps a credit card to secure a lawyer and prayer that he is ordered to reimburse?
I apologize that my post is not organized well. I am having such a difficult time
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