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Does child have to go on visitation with NCP?

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What is the name of your state? Oklahoma

my son is 12 and is involved with sports, hunting, friends and other school activities. His mother has moved 2 hours from where we live. he is at the age that he doesnt want to go with her every time she is supposed to have him for her visitation. do i have to make him go or is there something we can do so he doesnt have to?


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The moving two hours away may be cause for the judge to consolidate the visits into weeks instead of days during the summer or over the December school breaks, but lots of children travel two or more hours every other weekend for visitation. Hunting, fishing, sports, visiting with friends are not the reasons for not going to visit the other parent that one would want to tell a judge. At 12 years of age, the child needs to continue to have as much contact with each parent as is possible and needs to foster the relationship instead of withdrawing from it.

Until the judge says differently, the child must go on each scheduled visitation and participate in his regular activities on non-visitation days.



i have 3 children one of whom is 10 and does not like to visit his dad because his step brother (who by the way is 17)
beats him up and nobody does anything about it. ive been told by attorneys that there is nothing i can do to prevent him from going for his visits. but you can bet that when the step brother turns 18 next month there will be something i can do!!!
How would you like it??

Yes the child needs to go see his mother. His mother is also looking forward to that little bit of time she's going to get to be with her son!

12 Y/0 of happily married parents have 1000 other things they would rather be doing than spending time with their parents too.

The fact remains that they're minors and must do what they are told. So in FACT you're encouraging and responsible for this alienating of this childs relationship with the mother.


You've waisted enough of my time. Here's your answere.

Children need time with both parents, divorced or not!
And don't tell me now how she's a bad influence or abusive.
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christya said:
but you can bet that when the step brother turns 18 next
month there will be something i can do!!!
Like what? You could've reported an assault to the police all along - it'll be up to them if they charge the stepbro. Until there's an order that says your 10 yo doesn't have to go - he does.

Original poster - your kid has no choice. If he told you he didn't feel like going to school so he could hang with friends or go hunting - would you allow it? I figure not.

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