Does dad have to give mom his address change?

[Sandy53]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA

My daughter and son in law are seperated and divorce papers were filed. Neither one has custody but daughter has the youngest and the two older ones (12 & 16) have been staying with him.( they don't like the person she is living with because there are rules in the house) He (husband) has recently moved into a place with his girlfriend but daughter doesn't know the address . I asked her if she asked him for it she says no. The middle child was suspended for the day so the daughter has him/her. The Dad called and TOLD the mother to " have the child at my mothers house by 3:15 today " She asked him why and he didn't tell her. So that is like waving a red flag in front of her. She told him that she had him / her today and she was keeping him/her unless she knew why he needed him/her. This child should have been evaluated a couple of months ago by a specialist but the father told the child that they didn't have to go if they didn't want to. So the kid didn't go. Custody was put on hold for this specific reason, to have the child evaluated. A home visit was supposed to be arranged but the father never set it up . The mother has been waiting for the father to get his visit set up ( according to the people that have to do the visit they are waiting for him because he has to pay money up front for this visit and he doesn't have the money. ) We think this is why he finally moved out of his mothers house and in with his girlfriend. I am willing to bet all the bills are in her name because his credit is in the crapper . The place (from what I have been told ) is three bedroom , (supposedly) one for the girlfriend, one for the father and one for the kids...I'm not arguing that the father has a life...he should ! But his girlfriend has a daughter , don't know if she has custody or not , so are all four children supposed to be in one bedroom ? Boys and girls ? age 4 to 16 ?

Does the father have to let the mother know the address where he is living now ? My husband and I have no way of contacting these kids while they are at the fathers or his parents because his parents changed thier phone number ( think it's because of all the credit card bills he owes ) The oldest has a cell phone but the middle child doesn't because he broke it, plus other ones he has had...(anger problems which is why he should have been evaluated )
Thanks in advance for any info.

 

[Just Blue]

If the mother of these children has an legal issue, she should post for herself.

 

[Sandy53]

sorry, being the grandmother , I didn't think I wasn't allowed to ask the question. Since these children have been born I have helped take care of them (the oldest lived with us for the first three years of his life ) and I was thier babysitter/grandmom when both parents were working (especially at 4 a.m 5 out of 7 days during the week) when the other grandparents didn't want to be bothered, So I felt I had a little bit of reason to ask this question. I worry about them .
OK, how about this ? Do we , as grandparents , have the right to know where the grandchildren are living ?

Thank You
Sandy

 

[ErinGoBragh]

sorry, being the grandmother , I didn't think I wasn't allowed to ask the question. Since these children have been born I have helped take care of them (the oldest lived with us for the first three years of his life ) and I was thier babysitter/grandmom when both parents were working (especially at 4 a.m 5 out of 7 days during the week) when the other grandparents didn't want to be bothered, So I felt I had a little bit of reason to ask this question. I worry about them .
OK, how about this ? Do we , as grandparents , have the right to know where the grandchildren are living ?

Thank You
Sandy

No. As grandparents, you legally have a right to nothing involving the grandchildren at this time.

 

[ErinGoBragh]

I should note.. I say at this time meaning since you legally have no rights that the court has given you, but PA has laws that do give grandparents more rights than other states would. However, you would still need to have the court grant you those rights, which is not guaranteed, and until that time you are not entitled to any information involving your grandkids.

 

[LdiJ]

I should note.. I say at this time meaning since you legally have no rights that the court has given you, but PA has laws that do give grandparents more rights than other states would. However, you would still need to have the court grant you those rights, which is not guaranteed, and until that time you are not entitled to any information involving your grandkids.

Slight correction. PA laws do not give grandparents any more rights than any other state does. What PA laws give grandparents is more standing to attempt to sue for rights than some other states do. I realize that you basically explained that, but your initial statement was incorrect and might confuse people.

 

[Sandy53]

Thanks for replying. Just hope that things get straightened out soon with not much more problems arising that has already been done. I guess all we can do is be here if the kids need a "safe haven" . And no we do not talk about or put dad down with the kids around. I don't want them to think they have to make a choice ( at least with us anyway.)
Sandy