Domestic Violence Help, please.

[Invida]

What is the name of your state? Michigan.

Hello,

Thank you in advance for taking the time to read this post.

My mother and I were both involved in an argument that unfortunately became physical.

Note: The police were called by my father for a different reason, but found something else on their hands when they arrived.

Since my father did not witness what had happened between my mother and I, it is her word against mine. She initiated physical contact by pushing me several times and not allowing me past her to leave the room she had followed me into. (I tried to remove myself from the argument by going into my bedroom and I had shut the door. She followed me in. I tried to leave. She stood in my way and pushed me.) I struggled with her by trying to move past her, attempting to leave the room. The police clearly considered me the agressor, although I did not touch her until she had pushed me several times, and only while trying to exit. We had to file reports, and the police officers elected not to take us to jail, although he did tell us that we should both have gone. I have since resolved this incident with my mother, and she has told me that she does not wish to press charges. So, my question is, if my mother refuses to press charges, may the prosecutor still do so, and in the event of that happening, what should I do?

Also, I have no criminal record to speak of. My mother, however, does. She has been imprisoned, has a history of physical violence, and a well-document history of mental illness.What is the name of your state?

 

[BL]

http://www.michigan.gov/msp/0,1607,7-123-1589_1711_4577---,00.html

Yes, the prosecutor can and most likely will follow through with it .

How old are you ?

What promoted the argument ?

You both might be ordered to take DV class , Etc .

You can google search Michigan domestic violence laws , and look for contacts , etc .

 

[Invida]

Thanks for the reply.

I'm twenty years old.

My parents and I were arguing because my father called the police on my boyfriend, stating that he was trespassing although my father had told me he was allowed to be in the house as long as he did not leave my bedroom. (My father was angry that my boyfriend had not spoken to him at all while being in the house, and felt disrespected. I did not see that as a reason to waste the police's time) I had my boyfriend over on a previous occasion to sign a paper acknowledging that he is responsible to pay my mother the money she had loaned him. My boyfriend had left once the police were called, and I went into my room and shut the door behind me. My mother followed me into the room and when I tried to leave, she shoved me back into my television and it was knocked over when I fell into it. I tried again and again to leave, but she continued to shove me.

My mother has become physical with me on previous occasions. The last time, I was a minor, and an appearance in court was mandatory because the state pressed the charges. I can think of many times that she had been taken away by the police due to domestic violence between herself and my father, she being the agressor. I've also done several searches, but I'm not coming up with much. That's why I came here for advice.

 

[garrula lingua]

You are 20 years old and living at home and giving them grief ?!

Get your own apt.; if you are living under your parent's roof -- respect & honor them.

Even pushing your Mom is battery.

You sound very irresponsible - your boyfriend is borrowing money from your Mom; you have your boyfriend over, even though your father is upset & feels disrespected.

If you couldn't leave because Mom was blocking, then just sit down on the bed.
Why get into a pushing match with Mom ?

You have to grow up. Legally, you have the right to support yourself.

 

[Invida]

-_-

You are entitled to your opinion, but you neither know me nor my entire situation. You may want to think of that before you are so quick to judge.

Here's a little insight: I am living at home again due to a medical condition. Since I have no insurance and cannot pay all of my medical bills as well as keep an apartmet for myself, my father told me that it would be best for me to stay here. I give my parents no grief and I appreciate my father's help. My parents have been divorced for years. My father being the man that he is, has allowed my mother to stay here free of rent. I, however, do pay rent. As for my boyfriend being loaned money, that entire negotiation was between the two of them. I took no part in it, aside from asking him to sign a paper in the event that she may choose to take him to court over the matter. My mother has been violent with several members of the family. My father included. I did not hit nor shove her. I did not want her to continue to shove and push me, and so I tried to leave the room. Just because she is my mother, that does not mean that I should have subjected myself to abuse. If I had stayed in the room, she would have done what she always has. I have never been taken to jail for domestic violence or imprisoned for over a year. She has.

You may want to gather all of the facts before you spew off on someone.

 

[BL]

You are entitled to your opinion, but you neither know me nor my entire situation. You may want to think of that before you are so quick to judge.

Here's a little insight: I am living at home again due to a medical condition. Since I have no insurance and cannot pay all of my medical bills as well as keep an apartmet for myself, my father told me that it would be best for me to stay here. I give my parents no grief and I appreciate my father's help. My parents have been divorced for years. My father being the man that he is, has allowed my mother to stay here free of rent. I, however, do pay rent. As for my boyfriend being loaned money, that entire negotiation was between the two of them. I took no part in it, aside from asking him to sign a paper in the event that she may choose to take him to court over the matter. My mother has been violent with several members of the family. My father included. I did not hit nor shove her. I did not want her to continue to shove and push me, and so I tried to leave the room. Just because she is my mother, that does not mean that I should have subjected myself to abuse. If I had stayed in the room, she would have done what she always has. I have never been taken to jail for domestic violence or imprisoned for over a year. She has.

You may want to gather all of the facts before you spew off on someone.

Show me where I " spewed off " .

This is the kind of immaturity that leads to DV . Dysfunctional Families .

Sounds like you could ALL benefit from some counseling .

Now when you go to Court make sure the Judge is made aware of the statements you stated here .

 

[Invida]

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I clearly stated my reason for posting here. My post was not an invitation for you to belittle me based on whatever assumptions you have made about me. I only cared to know what the prosecutor may do in this given situation, and what I might do myself. That is all. If you want to make judgements about a person without having been present to witness all that occured, that is your business, but you might want to refrain from making pointless and irrelevant comments, and use the extra time to get over yourself.