Don't want to talk

[424Smudge]

What is the name of your state? IL

What can my husband do if his ex wives influence on the children has made them refuse to talk to him on the phone? The CO says that he is allowed telephonic access to them when they are not here (which is never as well). Last night he called using *67 to block his number. Her husband answered the phone and he went up to the kids and said, do you want to talk to you dad and they said no. My husband asked to talk to his ex and she was put on the phone and he asked why he can't talk to the kids and she said "who cares, it isn't hurting me at all" and hung up on him.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state? IL

What can my husband do if his ex wives influence on the children has made them refuse to talk to him on the phone? The CO says that he is allowed telephonic access to them when they are not here (which is never as well). Last night he called using *67 to block his number. Her husband answered the phone and he went up to the kids and said, do you want to talk to you dad and they said no. My husband asked to talk to his ex and she was put on the phone and he asked why he can't talk to the kids and she said "who cares, it isn't hurting me at all" and hung up on him.

Your husband can keep a record of every time he attempts to talk to the kids on the phone and is denied. Then when he has a record of them, he can go to court citing her with contempt. Part of a CP's responsibility is to make sure that the NCP gets access to the kids and ENCOURAGES that relationship.

 

[Halls]

Here is the problem I see here. Maybe your husband should attempt to see his kids and than they will maybe want to speak to him on the phone. If mom is denying visitation and your hubby does nothing about it maybe the kids just see dad as a deadbeat who doesn't want to see them. If your hubby pushed his visitation rights in court and saw his children they would see that is was likely mom keeping them from your hubby and the result may be they wanting to talk on the phone when dad calls more.

Anyhow, I don't know the whole story here, but if my assumption is correct than I would think it isn't a bad way to go.

 

[424Smudge]

Here is the problem I see here. Maybe your husband should attempt to see his kids and than they will maybe want to speak to him on the phone. If mom is denying visitation and your hubby does nothing about it maybe the kids just see dad as a deadbeat who doesn't want to see them. If your hubby pushed his visitation rights in court and saw his children they would see that is was likely mom keeping them from your hubby and the result may be they wanting to talk on the phone when dad calls more.

Anyhow, I don't know the whole story here, but if my assumption is correct than I would think it isn't a bad way to go.

He has, he has filed mulitple charges against her and won every time but it is pointless because the visitation is over by then and mom just does it again next time. Mom tells the kids that the reason he isnt seeing them is because he doesn't want to not that she is not letting them go.

 

[weenor]

He needs to file a petition for contempt with all the dates listed....and get this in front of a judge.

 

[424Smudge]

The kids went and saw a mediator last summer and the mediator did say in his ruling to the court that there exists the potential for the children to become estranged or alienated from father as a result of moms actions. Obviosly this has now happened. Can we use that to request that custody be changed? I personally have heard mom call dad names in front of the children. Before mom moved away the kids and him had a great relationship, they never even wanted to go with their mom on the move and were scared of her. A child will not change their opinion like that without the help of someone in the process. I think part of it is that they are scared of their mom and what she will do if they act like they want to come out here or talk on the phone.

 

[424Smudge]

He needs to file a petition for contempt with all the dates listed....and get this in front of a judge.

The dates for the phone calls? Or the dates for visitation? All of the dates for visitation have been brought up and we brought up the phone calls last time but all she got was a slap on the wrist.

 

[bononos]

The dates for the phone calls? Or the dates for visitation? All of the dates for visitation have been brought up and we brought up the phone calls last time but all she got was a slap on the wrist.

Both.
Contempt for calls and contempt for visitation.
Eventually, they will catch up to her and DO something about the contempts.