Hello,
I live in Kansas. I am an only child. I was made DPOA of my parents last year. My mother (83) was taken ill. She was in the hospital, so my father (84) moved in with me. My father told me to get all papers from the safety deposit box. I did so. He told me to buy new farm equipment as they had plenty of money, and this would be easier on me. I cashed in numerous investments and deposited in my bank account, with their permission. Some withdrawal forms were signed by them and some I signed using my DPOA papers. Mother wanted to be moved to the nursing home to recoup, so I did this and dad stayed with me. My father and I discussed the cost of the nursing home, they have long term care insurance. He wanted to live with me, so we decided to build a new home all handicap accessible on my farm. Eventually, with mother moving here also, once she was recouped. I put their home in town up for sale. Mother said No, Dad said Yes. I agreed with Dad as it is nothing but a money pit.
<p>My Dad decided he would go to the nursing home and stay with mom, until the house was completed. So, I signed him in there with mom. I started construction on the new home with their money and knowledge. My mother gave me specific orders as to how she wanted her bedroom and bathroom, and kitchen built. I took her carpet samples, so she could pick what she wanted. She did so. They have 2 vehicles one had my name on it when purchased, the other my dad only. I transfered them into my name, to make insurance cheaper without their knowledge. Mom hasn't driven for 30 years, and dad can't because of his Parkinson's. Workers in the nursing home were telling my parents sad stories and mom said she may have to loan them some money. I let mom have checkbooks in the home so she could mail order shop. I was becoming concerned as the nursing home was telling me to bring my parents investments there and they would make copies. I said No, as my parents are self pay around $7,000.00 a month, there is no reason for them to see this information. I would take mom's clothes and get them altered for her, then one day mom said the new administrator to be, is altering my clothes now. Also, I always took them to their doctor's appointments, some 1 1/2 hours away from the nursing home. The nursing home told me that was my responsibility, so I did so and took them all the time. Then one day, Mom said the home was going to take them from now on to all their appointments.
<p>There is much more I could say here, but to try and brief this up. My parents revoked my DPOA, and say they know nothing about anything and they are missing $340,00.00. They say they had no intentions of living with me and know nothing about farm equipment. They say they are happy where they are. And they are going to sue me for everything. I am at my wits ends, as to how they can tell me to do one thing, and then months later change their minds? They told my daughters at Christmas they could not give them anything as they were broke and I had taken all their money. At the time my DPOA was revoked they had $335,000.00 in cash and 600 acres of land, and their house in town as it had never sold. Once my DPOA was revoked my mother decided to sell the house in town. She wants the vehicles put in storage by the nursing home. She will not talk on the phone to me or let my dad talk. Her attorney is handling everything, at one point the attorney had an address changed on a $190,000.00 account to go to his office. It has since been changed and the statements go to mom at the nursing home.
I can give you more information if need be, but I feel like my life is ruined. What should I do?
Thank You,
onthefarm
I live in Kansas. I am an only child. I was made DPOA of my parents last year. My mother (83) was taken ill. She was in the hospital, so my father (84) moved in with me. My father told me to get all papers from the safety deposit box. I did so. He told me to buy new farm equipment as they had plenty of money, and this would be easier on me. I cashed in numerous investments and deposited in my bank account, with their permission. Some withdrawal forms were signed by them and some I signed using my DPOA papers. Mother wanted to be moved to the nursing home to recoup, so I did this and dad stayed with me. My father and I discussed the cost of the nursing home, they have long term care insurance. He wanted to live with me, so we decided to build a new home all handicap accessible on my farm. Eventually, with mother moving here also, once she was recouped. I put their home in town up for sale. Mother said No, Dad said Yes. I agreed with Dad as it is nothing but a money pit.
<p>My Dad decided he would go to the nursing home and stay with mom, until the house was completed. So, I signed him in there with mom. I started construction on the new home with their money and knowledge. My mother gave me specific orders as to how she wanted her bedroom and bathroom, and kitchen built. I took her carpet samples, so she could pick what she wanted. She did so. They have 2 vehicles one had my name on it when purchased, the other my dad only. I transfered them into my name, to make insurance cheaper without their knowledge. Mom hasn't driven for 30 years, and dad can't because of his Parkinson's. Workers in the nursing home were telling my parents sad stories and mom said she may have to loan them some money. I let mom have checkbooks in the home so she could mail order shop. I was becoming concerned as the nursing home was telling me to bring my parents investments there and they would make copies. I said No, as my parents are self pay around $7,000.00 a month, there is no reason for them to see this information. I would take mom's clothes and get them altered for her, then one day mom said the new administrator to be, is altering my clothes now. Also, I always took them to their doctor's appointments, some 1 1/2 hours away from the nursing home. The nursing home told me that was my responsibility, so I did so and took them all the time. Then one day, Mom said the home was going to take them from now on to all their appointments.
<p>There is much more I could say here, but to try and brief this up. My parents revoked my DPOA, and say they know nothing about anything and they are missing $340,00.00. They say they had no intentions of living with me and know nothing about farm equipment. They say they are happy where they are. And they are going to sue me for everything. I am at my wits ends, as to how they can tell me to do one thing, and then months later change their minds? They told my daughters at Christmas they could not give them anything as they were broke and I had taken all their money. At the time my DPOA was revoked they had $335,000.00 in cash and 600 acres of land, and their house in town as it had never sold. Once my DPOA was revoked my mother decided to sell the house in town. She wants the vehicles put in storage by the nursing home. She will not talk on the phone to me or let my dad talk. Her attorney is handling everything, at one point the attorney had an address changed on a $190,000.00 account to go to his office. It has since been changed and the statements go to mom at the nursing home.
I can give you more information if need be, but I feel like my life is ruined. What should I do?
Thank You,
onthefarm