What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? SD
Father-in-law was diagnosed with neurological disorder. He is 65 years old. He has no use of his left side and disease is beginning to spread on his right side. He drags his left side and he slurs when he speaks. He was recently in a car accident and lost his license as well. He can't stand for long periods of time and needs support. He has fallen many times and has visible cuts on his feet, arm and shoulders.
He is still insisting on independent living but recently took in a neighbor who is 35 years his junior. She is staying in his guest room. Claims that there's nothing romantic. My husband found out that he's been buying her things, expensive things (camera, laptop, pays for her car insurance and provides her $1k a month). He stated that she helps him around the house. She was kicked out of her parents home because she's an alcoholic. My husband lives in California so my husband came to visit after hearing his car accident and this situation with this woman.
Fathers family agrees on assisted living and my husband has a durable power of attorney. My father-in-law is adamant on independent living and was upset when my husband mentioned a financial audit from an independent source. He claims that how or where he spends his money is his business. My mother-in-law passed away 7 years ago from cancer.
His father's neurologist is ordering an environmental check in to see his living conditions. Doctor also ordered a mental check-up which my father-in-law was very angry about. Doctor also said that he should consider assisted living but he was also ignoring her. Apparently, he's cancelled his appts. and hasn't seen his doctor for 4 months. My husband has to force him to see her today.
When can my husband invoke the POA? His father still seems competent but being unreasonable. He is currently in denial about his disorder (thinking it will go away). There is no cure and he's only been given muscle relaxants to be more comfortable. Eventually, he will have no use of his right side as well and dementia is another symptom that we're not looking forward to.
My husband told me that he's been angry and yelling at him for bringing up assisted living and inquiring about the woman. She temporarily moved out while my husband is there. My husband doesn't know what to do and he just wants to give up and come home.
Any help is much appreciated.
Father-in-law was diagnosed with neurological disorder. He is 65 years old. He has no use of his left side and disease is beginning to spread on his right side. He drags his left side and he slurs when he speaks. He was recently in a car accident and lost his license as well. He can't stand for long periods of time and needs support. He has fallen many times and has visible cuts on his feet, arm and shoulders.
He is still insisting on independent living but recently took in a neighbor who is 35 years his junior. She is staying in his guest room. Claims that there's nothing romantic. My husband found out that he's been buying her things, expensive things (camera, laptop, pays for her car insurance and provides her $1k a month). He stated that she helps him around the house. She was kicked out of her parents home because she's an alcoholic. My husband lives in California so my husband came to visit after hearing his car accident and this situation with this woman.
Fathers family agrees on assisted living and my husband has a durable power of attorney. My father-in-law is adamant on independent living and was upset when my husband mentioned a financial audit from an independent source. He claims that how or where he spends his money is his business. My mother-in-law passed away 7 years ago from cancer.
His father's neurologist is ordering an environmental check in to see his living conditions. Doctor also ordered a mental check-up which my father-in-law was very angry about. Doctor also said that he should consider assisted living but he was also ignoring her. Apparently, he's cancelled his appts. and hasn't seen his doctor for 4 months. My husband has to force him to see her today.
When can my husband invoke the POA? His father still seems competent but being unreasonable. He is currently in denial about his disorder (thinking it will go away). There is no cure and he's only been given muscle relaxants to be more comfortable. Eventually, he will have no use of his right side as well and dementia is another symptom that we're not looking forward to.
My husband told me that he's been angry and yelling at him for bringing up assisted living and inquiring about the woman. She temporarily moved out while my husband is there. My husband doesn't know what to do and he just wants to give up and come home.
Any help is much appreciated.