RockyFire713
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
Hello, my mom is going through absolute torture taking care of her elderly mother with dementia that refuses to go into a nursing home. She is obstinate, throws things, and refuses to do pretty much anything (constantly recumbent). Sometimes she even refuses to take her proper medicines when we give them to her. She hurls mean and spiteful comments our way constantly. Our entire family has been living at her house for over a year since she needs 24/7 supervision on doctor's orders. It is tearing the family apart. Since grandma refuses to give mom POA, mom feels as though she is trapped in a never-ending cycle of servitude to her mother. Mom is also an only child so she feels she is legally obigated to take care of her mom. I don't know what to do. She is constantly upsetting everyone. Grandma is 91 and mom is turning 71 shortly. It's not healthy! Mom could easily get a heart attack from all the stress this is causing her. My grandmother is not the same woman I grew up knowing. She thinks her cat is the only thing that cares about her. Mom is retired and should be enjoying herself, instead she is going through hell taking care of a woman that won't do anything to help us let alone herself. We need a way to put Grandma in a nursing home because it has become way too much for us to handle. In home care is far too expensive. Mom wants to be able to turn the house over to the state if Grandma goes into a nursing home for the MediCaid option. Grandma refuses to give mom POA too. We have gone to the doctors with video evidence of what grandma does and it still does no good. We are in desperation to save our sanity.
Please help us! We are at our wits end!
Hello, my mom is going through absolute torture taking care of her elderly mother with dementia that refuses to go into a nursing home. She is obstinate, throws things, and refuses to do pretty much anything (constantly recumbent). Sometimes she even refuses to take her proper medicines when we give them to her. She hurls mean and spiteful comments our way constantly. Our entire family has been living at her house for over a year since she needs 24/7 supervision on doctor's orders. It is tearing the family apart. Since grandma refuses to give mom POA, mom feels as though she is trapped in a never-ending cycle of servitude to her mother. Mom is also an only child so she feels she is legally obigated to take care of her mom. I don't know what to do. She is constantly upsetting everyone. Grandma is 91 and mom is turning 71 shortly. It's not healthy! Mom could easily get a heart attack from all the stress this is causing her. My grandmother is not the same woman I grew up knowing. She thinks her cat is the only thing that cares about her. Mom is retired and should be enjoying herself, instead she is going through hell taking care of a woman that won't do anything to help us let alone herself. We need a way to put Grandma in a nursing home because it has become way too much for us to handle. In home care is far too expensive. Mom wants to be able to turn the house over to the state if Grandma goes into a nursing home for the MediCaid option. Grandma refuses to give mom POA too. We have gone to the doctors with video evidence of what grandma does and it still does no good. We are in desperation to save our sanity.
Please help us! We are at our wits end!
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