Emacipation in va

[Bishop17]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia. I am 17 living in stafford county Va. Back in march I got caught stealing from my job. I've been going to court and the attorneys I've talked believe I can get first offenders status. It was a dumb decision and I've learned from it. However it has ruined my relationship with my dad which was stressed already. I hate being at home. I have a new job now that I've been at for almost 2 months now. I excel at my job and actualy have been talked to about having manager potential. I make about 150$ a week, only working leisurely. I can ask for more hours. My father actualy was the one that told me to look into emancipation multiple time but I think it was out of anger. He probably wouldn't willingly consent. But I desperately want to be emancipated. I kno being on my own will force me to earn much more than 150$ a week but I'm willing to work more. I also have graduated friends with places of their own willing to let me move in for cheap. I have a 3.5 gpa and feel as though I can be on my own. I also bought a car with my father back in December. I put 1200$ into the car. I haven't seen it in awhile nd dont dare to ask but if he got rid of it without me knowing to I have any say in getting my 1200$ back? And also my father expects me to pay him 1000$ for the 3 days he had to take off from work for my court. I don't think he has the right to do that especially when we were at home by 10:00 am both days so far. I'm just looking for some guidance. I'm looking to leave ASAP. (though not going to runaway).

 

[cbg]

Back in march I got caught stealing from my job.

This was all I had to read. You've kissed any thought of emancipation goodbye. Don't even bother with the what-ifs or the But-my-situation-is differents. It isn't and it won't. There is no way on God's green earth, in any state in the US, that a minor with any kind of record, INCLUDING first offender status, will be emancipated, no matter how much parental support or how much the minor can earn. It simply will not happen.

 

[Antigone*]

Back in march I got caught stealing from my job.

This was all I had to read. You've kissed any thought of emancipation goodbye. Don't even bother with the what-ifs or the But-my-situation-is differents. It isn't and it won't. There is no way on God's green earth, in any state in the US, that a minor with any kind of record, INCLUDING first offender status, will be emancipated, no matter how much parental support or how much the minor can earn. It simply will not happen.

Absodanglutely agree with that. No judge in their right mind would consider your request at this point.

Hang in there until you are legally an adult which isn't much longer anyway.

 

[CSO286]

And, frankly, by the time you got the whole mess in court, you'd probably be an adult--so why bother?

my gift to Tink

 

[stealth2]

Back in march I got caught stealing from my job.

That was smart.

I have a new job now that I've been at for almost 2 months now. I excel at my job and actualy have been talked to about having manager potential. I make about 150$ a week, only working leisurely. I can ask for more hours.

Does your boss KNOW about your theft from your previous employer? 'Cause I wouldn't count on getting promoted to a managerial position with that on your record. There are plenty of HONEST hard workers they could hire these days - they don't need to rely on a thief.

 

[Bishop17]

Thank you so much all for your feedback. Any thoughts on me having to pay my father for days he took off from work to be at court or on the car?

 

[Antigone*]

Thank you so much all for your feedback. Any thoughts on me having to pay my father for days he took off from work to be at court or on the car?

That would be a very good gesture and would show your father that you are taking responsibility for your actions.

 

[NellieBly]

I'm not a lawyer, but I don't think you have to pay him for the days in court because you had no agreement to do so, plus you're a minor and can't enter into in a contract, if you wanted to.

As for the car, I have no idea, except you'd have to sue him.

 

[mistoffolees]

Thank you so much all for your feedback. Any thoughts on me having to pay my father for days he took off from work to be at court or on the car?

Why in the world do you need to ask?

Legally, you aren't obligated to pay unless a court orders you to pay. But given that your father voluntarily took time off work to be with you in court to try to keep you out of trouble, don't you think that would be the right thing to do?

Granted, you'll probably need to work more hours in order to do that or work out an extended payment plan with Dad, but you should do it.

As for the car? Ask him. He may well return it to you after you show good faith in paying him for his lost wages. If he's sold it, you probably won't get anything. Putting $1200 into a car doesn't mean that there's any more value in most cases. A car's value doesn't go up very much when you change the tires, fix the brakes, get it tuned up, etc.

 

[cbg]

Does the LAW require that you pay Dad back for the time he lost? No.

Can DAD require that you pay him back for the time he lost? Absodanglutely he can. He is still your father; you are still a minor; he still makes the rules.

 

[Bishop17]

Thanks again. "If he's sold it, you probably won't get anything. Putting $1200 into a car doesn't mean that there's any more value in most cases." I don't understand how if I saved $1200 for a car and he's sells the car I put my money into. How I'm not entitled to get my money back? And as for repaying his work wages. He has to be in court because he was listed in the paper telling him. If it wasn't for that he wouldnt be there which is fine with me. I'm already paying for my public defender myself. I dont feel as though I should have to pay him an additional $900 for his work wages when both days we were only there for about 2 nd a half hrs total. And the second day he honestly didn't even need off, we were home by 9:30 am. But yet he wants me to pay him 3 full days pay, and he can do this as my guardian?

 

[mistoffolees]

Thanks again. "If he's sold it, you probably won't get anything. Putting $1200 into a car doesn't mean that there's any more value in most cases." I don't understand how if I saved $1200 for a car and he's sells the car I put my money into. How I'm not entitled to get my money back? And as for repaying his work wages. He has to be in court because he was listed in the paper telling him. If it wasn't for that he wouldnt be there which is fine with me. I'm already paying for my public defender myself. I dont feel as though I should have to pay him an additional $900 for his work wages when both days we were only there for about 2 nd a half hrs total. And the second day he honestly didn't even need off, we were home by 9:30 am. But yet he wants me to pay him 3 full days pay, and he can do this as my guardian?

Sorry, I don't help ungrateful, self-centered brats.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Thanks again. "If he's sold it, you probably won't get anything. Putting $1200 into a car doesn't mean that there's any more value in most cases." I don't understand how if I saved $1200 for a car and he's sells the car I put my money into. How I'm not entitled to get my money back?

whos name was on the title? it was your dads. it was his car, and he had the right to sell it, and you dont get any money you put into his car. consider it the price to have had a car for a while.

And as for repaying his work wages. He has to be in court because he was listed in the paper telling him. If it wasn't for that he wouldnt be there which is fine with me. I'm already paying for my public defender myself.

public defenders are court appointed free lawyers.

I dont feel as though I should have to pay him an additional $900 for his work wages when both days we were only there for about 2 nd a half hrs total. And the second day he honestly didn't even need off, we were home by 9:30 am. But yet he wants me to pay him 3 full days pay, and he can do this as my guardian?

yes he can. punishment for misbehavior. sounds totally reasonable, and a punishment that fits your crime.

 

[Proserpina]

whos name was on the title? it was your dads. it was his car, and he had the right to sell it, and you dont get any money you put into his car. consider it the price to have had a car for a while.






public defenders are court appointed free lawyers.




yes he can. punishment for misbehavior. sounds totally reasonable, and a punishment that fits your crime.

Psst...in some areas the defendant does end up paying for the PD.

(Granted it's usually a nominal fee - couple hundred bucks - but still)

 

[Banned_Princess]

Psst...in some areas the defendant does end up paying for the PD.

(Granted it's usually a nominal fee - couple hundred bucks - but still)

ah, like a ability to pay kind of deal... ok. got'cha

well its the price of commiting crimes' -all of it.