Emancipation-I think I'm quite mature and need serious advice

[ALV2007]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?Illinois & Indiana

Well, hello to everyone who is taking the time to read this and thank you if you are providing some advice. My dilemma: Everyone makes mistakes in their lives, do they not? Well, yes I have made mistakes...at the time I was 14 turning 15 years old. Well, now I am 15 turning 16 next month and I would really like to get emancipated...My mother seems to never keep her legs closed and I know that some people would not like me talking about my mother in such a way but I am trying to get straight answers here...well she is on her 4th child now and it seems as if whatever her boyfriend says...she will do...I believe it is to keep him around for his money and for her attention needs(she feels 'lonely' in her age[31]). He seems as if he is trying to run my life...Well, for many years now my mother has put me through so much...I have practically raised my now 1 year old brother from the months of my mother's pregnancy up about until 2 months ago. My mother is the type of person that cares more about her stresses and the stresses of her at the time boyfriends. There is more but you discuss that with me at a later time. May I remind you that I am a very good student, managing A's and B's, respectful, I have a job working at my mother's boyfriend's fast food restaurant making 8 dollars an hour and have been putting half of my check in a secret savings account. So, if I were to get emancipated I would leave my mother's home and be welcomed into my aunt's, who has already said that she would love for me to stay with her, where I would continue to stay an honor roll student and find a new job(which I wouldn't need money for awile while looking for a new one, due to my savings which is pretty hefty)... So please....offer any advice that you wish to.

 

[stealth2]

Well, first you would need to find out whether your state provides for emancipation. Most states require parental consent. In addition, you'd need to show a judge that you are completely self-sufficient - that means have the ability to support yourself with no help at all. That includes providing for your own housing (no roommate, no staying with friends, no staying with a relative), food, utilities, clothing, transportation, that you intend to finish school and can continue to support yourself financially while doing so, etc.

 

[ALV2007]

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Well, I do have a means of supporting myself...I have read various reports on Child Emancipation Minor Acts. And, both of the states (Illinois and Indiana) provide these opportunities. I have read in the Acts that you make live wherever you would like, just as long as you do not move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend. I do wish to continue schooling and I would not be receiving any support in terms of financially from my aunt or her husband. Do you think that I would have a good chance of being emancipated. I have recommendations from mostly all of my teachers stating that they believe that I would do great if I were to be emancipated. The reason for seeking emancipation is (as stated in the Act 750 in Illinois) for mental health reasons. My mother has applied to much pressure in terms of how she is with everyone else and neglects me. I am not looking for sympathy, just a chance to improve my life. I have also lived basically independently, when my mother would take off for long periods of time leaving me with my new born baby brother and 8 year old sister...So not only did I have to take care of myself but two others. I think I am mature, responsible, and quite intelligent.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

It sounds like there has been some neglect on your mother's part, however, your care for your younnger sibling may have been necessary during her pregnancy and her BF providing you with employment allowing you to save money is not neglect. Is your mother getting welfare or child support for you?
If your aunt is willing to take you in, is she willing to do that as your guardian or as a fosterparent, or is she requiring your emancipation so as not to have responsibility? If you become her ward, the child support comes with you if done through the courts, although it can be done privatly, mom may object to that if she loses income.

 

[stealth2]

While you can live anywhere you like AFTER emancipation, the judge would require that you have the resources to live alone.

 

[ALV2007]

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Well....my mother's boyfriend providing me a job is not necessarily neglect...that was not the issue. The reason I got that job was because my mother was upset that my father would only send half of the child support. And, I wanted to work for the things I wanted, and I had to give up a lot to have that job. I gave up soccer, spending weekends at family members homes, etc..And, yes, my mother does receive child support but I don't receive a penny of it...I pay my own bills, cell phone, clothing, etc., and my mother has really no bills to pay concerning me due to the fact that my mother does not pay utilities or any of the such. I do not ever use our house phone rarely do I even eat in this house. I'm quite independent. And, my aunt is offering to let me stay there, and no I am highly offended to have someone think that my aunt is either trying to receive the child support or have me be emancipated first before staying with her so she won't have to feel the burden of myself.

 

[stealth2]

And, yes, my mother does receive child support but I don't receive a penny of it....

Nor are you entitled to any of it - that's not how CS works.

 

[ALV2007]

Yes, I am entitled to it. Not to spend it on junk. I am entitled to receive the money for things that I need. It's for the purposes of the child, not for the guardian to use at their own disposal. My mother does not use it for anything that I need. I need new clothes, new shoes, new everything. And, this has been an issue that a lawyer HAS told me that I AM entitled to it if I do not see that my mother is using it for the correct purposes, which I do. So, I do not understand where you have gotten that fact from. And, I am currently taking a pre-law class in school, and that is where it is stated as well.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Well....my mother's boyfriend providing me a job is not necessarily neglect...that was not the issue. The reason I got that job was because my mother was upset that my father would only send half of the child support. And, I wanted to work for the things I wanted, and I had to give up a lot to have that job. I gave up soccer, spending weekends at family members homes, etc..And, yes, my mother does receive child support but I don't receive a penny of it...I pay my own bills, cell phone, clothing, etc., and my mother has really no bills to pay concerning me due to the fact that my mother does not pay utilities or any of the such. I do not ever use our house phone rarely do I even eat in this house. I'm quite independent. And, my aunt is offering to let me stay there, and no I am highly offended to have someone think that my aunt is either trying to receive the child support or have me be emancipated first before staying with her so she won't have to feel the burden of myself.

You missed the point because you don't know how things work.
Your mother has already made Child support an issus by not pursuing the amount owed and making you work to make up the difference and/or for you to have money for your own needs. However if your aunt were to become your guardian, that child support would go to your aunt to provide for you, not directly to you, that is not saying that your aunt is less a person because they might accept the childsupport, but rather that your mother isn't using the childsupport for it's purpose and wouldn't allow you to stay with your aunt if the child support goes to your aunt, but I'll bet your mother would let you go and live with your aunt if your mom still gets the child support.

That is the only way you will be able to get out of the house, is to become the ward of someone like your aunt with your mother's/father's permission, your father still has some say as well. It is very difficult to become emancipated withuot a compelling reason and no other options such as you have. You could still work and save money etc.

 

[stealth2]

Yes, I am entitled to it. Not to spend it on junk. I am entitled to receive the money for things that I need. It's for the purposes of the child, not for the guardian to use at their own disposal. My mother does not use it for anything that I need. I need new clothes, new shoes, new everything. And, this has been an issue that a lawyer HAS told me that I AM entitled to it if I do not see that my mother is using it for the correct purposes, which I do. So, I do not understand where you have gotten that fact from. And, I am currently taking a pre-law class in school, and that is where it is stated as well.

Until a JUDGE says the money goes to you, you're not entitled to it, regardless what a lawyer or a HS pre-law class tells you. Child support goes to the custodial parent to provide for the child's needs. If it's not being spent in an appropriate manner, it's up to the OBLIGOR to take it up with the court.