According to our divorce decree (VT) in 1996, I was to have been designated benficiary of my ex's life insurance, the money to have been used for the "health, education and welfare" of our children. He neglected to make the designation, naming our children instead. He died in 1999. I now had to be named legal guardian and have to report to probate court on all expenditures and investments of the funds: life insurance, workers comp, and social security. Any way to enforce the divorce order and get out of probate hell? Thanks in advance!