Ex wants physical custody

[oppsworld]

What is the name of your state? Utah

I recieved a letter from my ex last night, asking me to sign it to give him physical custody. Our oldest son had asked if he could live with his dad, and I told him that we would need to talk about it. I never told him that it was going to happen just that we could talk about it. The ex can't even pay child support to help take care of them. What is the likely hood of him being able to get them? Should I be worried?

Thanks Jen

 

[stealth2]

If you don't agree to the change, he would have to file for a modification of custody. Then it's a toss-up. If you do agree, I would suggest documenting it all through the court anyway.

 

[oppsworld]

I don't agree with it. I want him to see them whenever he would like, but he doesn't even take them when he is supposed to. My guess he is getting worried because he is far behind in support and the state is starting to tighten the screws. I wonder if this is all about the money. I would never do anything without going through the courts, he is an ex for a reason. Thanks stealth2.

 

[crystaly]

Some times the court will take into consideration what the child wants depending on the age of the child. It all depends on the situation and if the other parent would be able to support and take care of the child properly. Also alot goes into you agreeing with it. If the father has not visited when he is supposed to and suddenly wants custody switched then the chances are unlikely that the court would order a reversal of custody.

 

[oppsworld]

Our children are 8,6, and 4. The grass is always greener on the other side(so the kids think). He has no rules and I am always the bad guy. I don't get it, no child support, doesn't call on their b-days, doesn't pick them up for christmas, easter, nothing! But he wants them, I think not! Take care of them? What he can't even help out with anything they need, like I said before no child support. I wish he would see them more, I am the one that has to deal with 3 crying kids when he doesn't call or show up. Thanks for the imput.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Please read OP other threads before posting advice, she sings several different songs depending upon whether it is her ex or er husband's ex she has child support issues with and all of this while she claims to be about to be rolling in the big buck$ for selling a patent.
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=259099 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=259814

 

[SingleMom67]

Please read OP other threads before posting advice, she sings several different songs depending upon whether it is her ex or er husband's ex she has child support issues with and all of this while she claims to be about to be rolling in the big buck$ for selling a patent.
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=259099 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=259814

Yikes, Jen. What's up with that? With all this new found money, a person would think you could hire a mighty fine attorney so you wouldn't have to worry about your ex getting the 8 year old.

 

[oppsworld]

I feel my children are entitled to their child support no matter how much money I have. Not eveyone is so lucky to have ex's on both sides that can be civil. My husband has always paid his support and everything else the kids need. Maybe because we have a nest egg my childrens father shouldn't have to be responsable. I was simply asking for advice about custody, and I stated that he doesn't pay, but that he wants them. He has plenty of money he just chooses not to support them. I was asking for advice on the custody thing, him not wanting to pay for them but he wants to have custody. About our money, we have been the ones working hard and his ex doesn't deserve any of it. If you went though and read it you would see that we pay for everything for his kids. Even stuff that we are not required to pay. I just got to pay a 5000.00 bill for braces! She didn't pay one red cent, and the 12yo is getting hers at the end of the month. It does say in his decree that they are to split the cost 50/50. We were never consulted on the braces, she just went and had them put on, and then gave us the bill. It shouldn't matter how much money you have, your children are entitled to the support. Thanks though for the response.

 

[oppsworld]

Yikes, Jen. What's up with that? With all this new found money, a person would think you could hire a mighty fine attorney so you wouldn't have to worry about your ex getting the 8 year old.

I will if I need to. I was just looking for some advice, curious more than anything. At the moment we are trying to get things settled on getting my husbands kids.

 

[oppsworld]

Thanks everyone, I will call an attorney to get the definite answer. Keep smiling rmet4nzkx, maybe I will share some of my money with you