concernedDadAZ
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What is the name of your state? Case is in Iowa
The case is this...
My ex wife wants me to pay for medical expenses as the divorce decree says that I need to pay 1/2.
I lost my job a couple times no fault on my own and am having a difficult time recovering financially from that.
The other reason I have not paid these expenses is due to my ex-wife doing something to cause tramatic stress to my daughter who is 16 years old. My daughter even tried to commit suicide at one point. My ex also blocks me for a long period of time from being able to communicate with my daughter which made my relationship with my daughter more weaker than ever. Now my daughter suffers from depression and is not herself. While I was there in Iowa I got to see my daughter in Dec 2017. During that time I was shocked and sickened at how brain washed she is and how scared she is to tell me anything that happened to her that she said that my ex-wife would go to jail for what she did. My ex wife is out of control and not a good person when she gets mad. Not sure what happened exactly.
I need some advise. I live in Arizona and am not able to attend in person for this case. I asked the court to give me permission to attend by phone. That was denied and said if I don't appear for a mediation session and then a meeting with the judge to set a new date that the entire case would be a judgement against me immediately. By paying monthly nearly $900 per month in child support I don't have any money to travel there to be onsite for this mediation and meeting with the judge. Then another date also for the actual hearing that will be set according to the court response in 2 weeks later.
What can I do to get the court to allow me to appear by telephone. The judge is a new judge and just started a few days ago. There may also be a conflict of interest as the judge for the case her husband works at Rockwell Collins the same as my ex wife so the judge may be biased in the case. Wish to have a different judge. Not sure how to ask or go about making that happen.
The charges are for nearly $5K in medical payments. This is very excessive for one thing. Another thing I don't think I should be responsible for any expenses that were induced by my ex wife to my daughter. I wish to get custody of my daughter from my wife but don't have 100K to pay a lawyer only to end up with my daughter still with my ex wife.
How can I control these excessive medical bills with an ex wife that thinks she can do whatever she wants and demand money immediately when ever she wants for any medical payments that she goes for. Some of the expenses are for dentist orthodontist work. Perhaps some of the other charges are related to whatever and caused by my ex.
Is there anything I can do to recommend and get a fair payment plan for the medical expenses from the court? Instead of a wage garnishment as that will make it so that i need to take two jobs again.
Lawyers and courts love this kind of suffering and pain. Wish someone in the legal system cared to stand up and do something to stop this kind of thing and to do what is right. No way should I be paying as much as I do for child support. It is just crazy.
Can I ask for credit on the child support for the medical payments since they are excessive. It is clear that my ex only cares about getting as much as possible. I don't have a lot of money and am tired of dealing with a sick minded ex wife.
Please help.
The case is this...
My ex wife wants me to pay for medical expenses as the divorce decree says that I need to pay 1/2.
I lost my job a couple times no fault on my own and am having a difficult time recovering financially from that.
The other reason I have not paid these expenses is due to my ex-wife doing something to cause tramatic stress to my daughter who is 16 years old. My daughter even tried to commit suicide at one point. My ex also blocks me for a long period of time from being able to communicate with my daughter which made my relationship with my daughter more weaker than ever. Now my daughter suffers from depression and is not herself. While I was there in Iowa I got to see my daughter in Dec 2017. During that time I was shocked and sickened at how brain washed she is and how scared she is to tell me anything that happened to her that she said that my ex-wife would go to jail for what she did. My ex wife is out of control and not a good person when she gets mad. Not sure what happened exactly.
I need some advise. I live in Arizona and am not able to attend in person for this case. I asked the court to give me permission to attend by phone. That was denied and said if I don't appear for a mediation session and then a meeting with the judge to set a new date that the entire case would be a judgement against me immediately. By paying monthly nearly $900 per month in child support I don't have any money to travel there to be onsite for this mediation and meeting with the judge. Then another date also for the actual hearing that will be set according to the court response in 2 weeks later.
What can I do to get the court to allow me to appear by telephone. The judge is a new judge and just started a few days ago. There may also be a conflict of interest as the judge for the case her husband works at Rockwell Collins the same as my ex wife so the judge may be biased in the case. Wish to have a different judge. Not sure how to ask or go about making that happen.
The charges are for nearly $5K in medical payments. This is very excessive for one thing. Another thing I don't think I should be responsible for any expenses that were induced by my ex wife to my daughter. I wish to get custody of my daughter from my wife but don't have 100K to pay a lawyer only to end up with my daughter still with my ex wife.
How can I control these excessive medical bills with an ex wife that thinks she can do whatever she wants and demand money immediately when ever she wants for any medical payments that she goes for. Some of the expenses are for dentist orthodontist work. Perhaps some of the other charges are related to whatever and caused by my ex.
Is there anything I can do to recommend and get a fair payment plan for the medical expenses from the court? Instead of a wage garnishment as that will make it so that i need to take two jobs again.
Lawyers and courts love this kind of suffering and pain. Wish someone in the legal system cared to stand up and do something to stop this kind of thing and to do what is right. No way should I be paying as much as I do for child support. It is just crazy.
Can I ask for credit on the child support for the medical payments since they are excessive. It is clear that my ex only cares about getting as much as possible. I don't have a lot of money and am tired of dealing with a sick minded ex wife.
Please help.