Ex-wife

[vanana]

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? New Jersey My son's ex-wife is being so vindictive that I'm ready to hire a hit man! She is threatening to put him in jail if he doesn't pay her $ that she believes he owes her. He really doesn't, he paid all the bills when they seperated rather than wait for a decision from the court. The decisioin came down that he should not have done that. Even though he has checks to prove it. As a result, he is willing to pay her and has actually been sending payments. He tried to get an equity loan on the home (that she is still living in w/his two girls) and she refused to sign the papers. But she still insists on the $ in full. Are there any lawyers who are proficient in cases supporting a father and ex-husband? The good men in the world are getting a bum deal in the courts.

 

[LdiJ]

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? New Jersey My son's ex-wife is being so vindictive that I'm ready to hire a hit man! She is threatening to put him in jail if he doesn't pay her $ that she believes he owes her. He really doesn't, he paid all the bills when they seperated rather than wait for a decision from the court. The decisioin came down that he should not have done that. Even though he has checks to prove it. As a result, he is willing to pay her and has actually been sending payments. He tried to get an equity loan on the home (that she is still living in w/his two girls) and she refused to sign the papers. But she still insists on the $ in full. Are there any lawyers who are proficient in cases supporting a father and ex-husband? The good men in the world are getting a bum deal in the courts.

You are way too involved in this divorce grandma....its just going to make you the "bad guy".

If they are divorced, and she is living in the home, then apparently the judge awarded the house to her. Therefore why would she be willing to take on an equity loan?

If they are going through the divorce process, and no final decisions have been made regarding a property settlement then it would be darned STUPID for her to sign off on more joint debt.

Your son is in the wrong on that one.

 

[vanana]

undefinedNew Jersey - He does own the home. The court did NOT award her the home. He didn't sell at the time of the divorce because he didn't want his girls to be uprooted. I'm still wondering where the lawyers are that can support a good man who is trying to do right by his children. Believe me I would prefer not to be involved but there is a lot more to the story. She won't buy him out, she won't let him take out the equity loan to pay her what she thinks is due her.

 

[LdiJ]

undefinedNew Jersey - He does own the home. The court did NOT award her the home. He didn't sell at the time of the divorce because he didn't want his girls to be uprooted. I'm still wondering where the lawyers are that can support a good man who is trying to do right by his children. Believe me I would prefer not to be involved but there is a lot more to the story. She won't buy him out, she won't let him take out the equity loan to pay her what she thinks is due her.

Again...she would be an utter fool if she signed off on any joint debt....which is exactly what she would be doing if she signed off on a home equity loan.

The proper proceedure for that (assuming that he is going to keep the home) would be for him to refinance the home in his own name, adding to the mortgage whatever amount is necessary to buy her out. If she won't agree to that....then either she has to do the same and buy him out....or he needs to take it back to court to order that the home be sold and the proceeds split.

 

[vanana]

undefinedNew Jersey - I agree. However, her appraisal on the home is much below the market value and wouldn't allow her ex-husband in the house during the appraisal. Further will not allow him to have an appraisal of his own. Sounds like a "court order to sell" could be the best way to go.

 

[LdiJ]

undefinedNew Jersey - I agree. However, her appraisal on the home is much below the market value and wouldn't allow her ex-husband in the house during the appraisal. Further will not allow him to have an appraisal of his own. Sounds like a "court order to sell" could be the best way to go.

I agree that it sounds that way.