Facebook & Derogatory Remarks/Cease and Desist?

[mommymushbrain]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arkansas

My ex was served contempt papers (for child support).

He proceeded to rant and rave about me on facebook, calling me all sorts of horrific names. Both our daughters are friends on his list, able to see everything he's written.

Would writing a "cease and desist" letter be against any rules/laws?

My first draft is looking like this:

This email is to notify your per the divorce decree standard order of visitation that...

"Both parties are enjoined and restrained from making derogatory remarks about the other parent in the presence of the child or children, and from allowing or encouraging others to do so."

I am requesting a cease and desist regarding derogatory posts you make on Facebook.com regarding the status of our custody/vistiation/child support case and regarding myself. Both girls are on your Facebook friends list, with the ability to see everything you post and those types of comments are not in their best interest for their emotional and mental well-being.

I do not wish to remove a vital form of communication between you and the girls, but if posts continue, I will have no choice but to have you blocked from their pages and bring this matter before the Court.

Yea? Nay?

Would it be best to email this or send via snail mail in a certified letter?

Thank you.

 

[HomeGuru]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arkansas

My ex was served contempt papers (for child support).

He proceeded to rant and rave about me on facebook, calling me all sorts of horrific names. Both our daughters are friends on his list, able to see everything he's written.

Would writing a "cease and desist" letter be against any rules/laws?

My first draft is looking like this:


Yea? Nay?

Would it be best to email this or send via snail mail in a certified letter?

Thank you.

**A: I like it. Aren't you going to add " and if it does not stop, I am going to send Big Bubba after you. After all, Big Bubba and I are fb friends".

 

[mommymushbrain]

**A: I like it. Aren't you going to add " and if it does not stop, I am going to send Big Bubba after you. After all, Big Bubba and I are fb friends".

(Well, I was just going to post the smilie, but the message says I have to type at least 10 characters.)

 

[Zigner]

Your letter carries no force of law. It might help, it might not. Why don't you simply ask the ex to not bring your kids in to this matter?

 

[BL]

Facebook has a deactivate feature . It can be permanent or temporary .

Don't you just love the drama social sites bring on ?

 

[mommymushbrain]

Because my ex doesn't care.

He's been asked before, he says he doesn't care - that the girls have a right to know what a horrible person I am.

Even if there is no force of law, wouldn't my email serve as asking him if I changed a few things, like taking out the part of bringing the matter before the court?

 

[mommymushbrain]

Facebook has a deactivate feature . It can be permanent or temporary .

Don't you just love the drama social sites bring on ?

And how is that fair to the girls who like to talk to Dad via facebook? Is there a way I can block his posts on their pages, but still allow them to contact and post to him?

 

[Zigner]

How old are your kids?

 

[mommymushbrain]

11 and 10

(Yes, I know the age limit for FB - all their friends are family only.)

 

[CJane]

So, what negative impact did this rant of dad's have on your relationship with the kids? And how old are the kids?

 

[mommymushbrain]

So, what negative impact did this rant of dad's have on your relationship with the kids? And how old are the kids?

They are 11 and 10.

No impact really other than they are very uncomfortable when he talks about me like that. But our relationship is normal as before. They had two years of counseling when the verbal attacks were much more common, I am hoping those skills learned are helping them cope through this round.

I would just hate to see his bad mouthing me ruin his relationship with them. I would just like him to be an adult and stop with all the nasty comments about me to them, whether it be verbally or on a social site where they can see it - along with all his online friends who don't even know the whole story agreeing with him that I am this horrid person.

Should I just let it go?

 

[mistoffolees]

They are 11 and 10.

No impact really other than they are very uncomfortable when he talks about me like that. But our relationship is normal as before. They had two years of counseling when the verbal attacks were much more common, I am hoping those skills learned are helping them cope through this round.

I would just hate to see his bad mouthing me ruin his relationship with them. I would just like him to be an adult and stop with all the nasty comments about me to them, whether it be verbally or on a social site where they can see it - along with all his online friends who don't even know the whole story agreeing with him that I am this horrid person.

Should I just let it go?

Let's see. Your kids are 10 and 11, so if I'm doing the math properly, I'm assuming that you're an adult.

Adults are capable of controlling their emotions and not flying off the deep end every time they're offended. Your kids are a little uncomfortable with it, but it's not having any impact on you, so just let it go. It sounds like the know the difference between reality and someone's Facebook ranting. Do you?

 

[Zigner]

11 and 10

(Yes, I know the age limit for FB - all their friends are family only.)

Ahhh, so what you're teaching the kids is that the rules are ok to break...way to go mom.

Take the kids off FB, problem solved.

 

[Ohiogal]

11 and 10

(Yes, I know the age limit for FB - all their friends are family only.)

So you disregard that age limit because you are special. How about this -- remove them from facebook until they are the proper age.

 

[Zigner]

Upon further reflection, not only is mom encouraging the children to break the rules, she's encouraging them to break the law (unauthorized access to a computer network)