Family Relocation

[ReneeCT]

What is the name of your state? CT

My husband has physical custody of his child from a past realtionship (not married) he is five years old. This non-custodial mother has visitation ever other Sat. & Sun. 10 am -8 pm no overnights do to negative situations and old job schedules she has had. Also, Tues. & Thurs. from 4- 6:30, which he does not go to all of the time. My husband and I own a Home Improvement/ Gutter company here in Northeastern CT. In the spring and summer business is good however when we start to get the cold months about Oct. - end of Feb. business slows down tremendously. It get really bad this time of year as far as paying employees which we do lay off some, and paying our personal/houshold bills. We are looking to relocate to the south preferably South Carolina. We have a plan for visitation and we aren't looking to move until June. After the holidays he is going to approach her with this... we are hopeing she may agree do to the long extended periods of time that she will have him on school vacations. We would not want child support, event though she is ordered to pay child support now and is behind 4900.00, and we are looking to split transportation costs. What do you think about this situation and what do you think our chances are? I just hope she doesn't think we are doing this becasue of her.

 

[betterthanher]

What is the name of your state? CT

My husband has physical custody of his child from a past realtionship (not married) he is five years old. This non-custodial mother has visitation ever other Sat. & Sun. 10 am -8 pm no overnights do to negative situations and old job schedules she has had. Also, Tues. & Thurs. from 4- 6:30, which he does not go to all of the time. My husband and I own a Home Improvement/ Gutter company here in Northeastern CT. In the spring and summer business is good however when we start to get the cold months about Oct. - end of Feb. business slows down tremendously. It get really bad this time of year as far as paying employees which we do lay off some, and paying our personal/houshold bills. We are looking to relocate to the south preferably South Carolina. We have a plan for visitation and we aren't looking to move until June. After the holidays he is going to approach her with this... we are hopeing she may agree do to the long extended periods of time that she will have him on school vacations. We would not want child support, event though she is ordered to pay child support now and is behind 4900.00, and we are looking to split transportation costs. What do you think about this situation and what do you think our chances are? I just hope she doesn't think we are doing this becasue of her.

You shouldn't expect her to split transportation costs. HE is the one creating the distance and it's not fair to the other parent to take on the extra transportation costs.

What he needs to do is follow proper state procedure (check either the order or state statutes) regarding move-aways. He certainly should submit the new visitation schedule and see if she signs it, too. But don't be surprised if she puts up a fuss.

 

[ReneeCT]

As far as trans. costs we can pay for them that is fine. In the current order there is nothing in reagrds to move-aways. And we are pretty sure she will put up a fuss. What would happen if we confront her and she says no but she doesn't file anything in court to keep us hear. Could we get in trouble for leaving.

 

[Zephyr]

As far as trans. costs we can pay for them that is fine. In the current order there is nothing in reagrds to move-aways. And we are pretty sure she will put up a fuss. What would happen if we confront her and she says no but she doesn't file anything in court to keep us hear. Could we get in trouble for leaving.

make sure the notification of the move is done in accordance to the state guidelines, if she doesn't take him to court within the timeframe the state designates then she is sol

someone would have to file for a modification of the visitation order though

 

[VeronicaGia]

As far as trans. costs we can pay for them that is fine. In the current order there is nothing in reagrds to move-aways. And we are pretty sure she will put up a fuss. What would happen if we confront her and she says no but she doesn't file anything in court to keep us hear. Could we get in trouble for leaving.

Your husband needs to put it in writing, mail it to her registered mail, return receipt. He needs to give her time to protest the move in court.

 

[CJane]

What would happen if we confront her and she says no but she doesn't file anything in court to keep us hear. Could we get in trouble for leaving.

If she fights the move, it could get very costly and drawn out. You will have to prove that the move is in the best-interest of the child... more beneficial than frequent contact with mom.

 

[ReneeCT]

If she agrees with the move and the visitation do we have to file the change of visitation in court? I think she might agree just because of the child suppor thing which is sad for my step son becasue I know he loves his mom a lot but most of the time it seems like the only reason she keeps her visits is because of my husband and I. She feels like she is interupting our lives or something which we could care less there are a lot of families in this same situation and it gives me a major break when her visitation comes.

 

[CJane]

If she agrees with the move and the visitation do we have to file the change of visitation in court?

Yes. And bear in mind that any future hearings for visitation/custody/etc will most likely take place in CT.