father in town over mothers day

[2goodgirls]

My x is coming in town over mothers day weekend because we have a mediation for custody on monday May 14, He called and wants to pick up girls on Friday May 11, and told him ok if he brings them back on Saterday PM because Sun. was mothers day, and we had plans, He seemed a little put out because of that but that's tough as far as I'm concerned.

My questsion is, will he be able to say that I withheld visitation from him on that day, during the mediation because He came from FL to OH, if it wasn't for the mediation date we already had I can guarantee that he would of not come up here. Do you think that the mediator will really think that I withheld them from him on mothers day and make me look bad, after all it is Mothers day, and I want breakfast in bed (haha) not his future 3rd wife?

 

[LegalBeagle]

My x is coming in town over mothers day weekend because we have a mediation for custody on monday May 14, He called and wants to pick up girls on Friday May 11, and told him ok if he brings them back on Saterday PM because Sun. was mothers day, and we had plans, He seemed a little put out because of that but that's tough as far as I'm concerned.

My questsion is, will he be able to say that I withheld visitation from him on that day, during the mediation because He came from FL to OH, if it wasn't for the mediation date we already had I can guarantee that he would of not come up here. Do you think that the mediator will really think that I withheld them from him on mothers day and make me look bad, after all it is Mothers day, and I want breakfast in bed (haha) not his future 3rd wife?

If he wants to see more of the Children then he should arrive on the Thursday and see their school, chat with their teachers, visit their favorite places etc.. no one will think bad of you wanting them bad Sat PM.

 

[2goodgirls]

Thank You,

He's staying til Wed. and on Tues. we have depositions if it goes to that, I hope not, but my 14 yr old asked him to help out at her private catholic school for olympic, I think if he is smart after spending the day with her at school and seeing how she loves it and how the same 29 students that she has been in school with over the last 8 years love he and she loves them, almost like siblings, and not to speak of how the other parents love her, we're a very close knit school, I think he should feel shamed and selfish to try to continue to get custody of them.

Maybe her inviting him there will be what helps matters the most for us.

 

[2goodgirls]

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[SockGirl]

You are being reasonable. Your job is not to sacrifice your rights for his. You have met your obligation to allow him visitation with his child. It is very hard to be a CP in your position - I've been there too. You always feel you are being held to a higher standard than any other parent and in many ways you are. Don't fail to give yourself the credit you deserve in the job you are doing - both inside and outside of mediation. All Mothers deserve breakfast in bed! Enjoy yours without guilt.

 

[friendly1]

I am from Ohio. And in all visitation orders, it states:
Mother's Day should always be with the mother and Father's Day should always be with the father. If Mother's Day falls on the fathers visitation day and the parents can not agree, then the times should be from 9:30 AM to 6:00 PM. Hope that helps! I was just asking on here about that myself. My ex was demanding to have my child that day and I said no. My lawyer was the one that told me that info. So you would not look bad. Just encourage visits during the rest of the time he is here.
Good luck!

 

[2goodgirls]

Thank you I was afraid that he would try to make me look bad during our mediation on Monday, I really want the custody matter settled on Monday, It's been really stressful on me and the girls

 

[LegalBeagle]

Thank you I was afraid that he would try to make me look bad during our mediation on Monday, I really want the custody matter settled on Monday, It's been really stressful on me and the girls

Your situation is slightly different than the normal every other weekend. I do not believe for a moment that any judge will hold you in contempt or even think bad of you if you deny him visitation on Mothers Day.

 

[2goodgirls]

Thank you, this is obviously very important to me and the girls, I don't think they want to live in FL. and I don't want this type of thing to mess the outcome up.