Eccentrica_Gallumbits
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What is the name of your state? Hawai'i
We have two children, ages 9 and 12. In general the co-parenting goes relatively smoothly. However, father has a history of not taking children to school after overnights at his house, even when they are well. When I ask him why he did not take them to school he either gives no reason, says they didn't want to go/refused to go, or (sometimes) claims they did not feel well. He has recently learned that he can request a note from the doctor for random one-off days and they will provide, so they look like legitimate, excused absences.
Divorce was final 2010. Court order says we share legal and physical custody. It says we are to share time 50/50 but he has never taken advantage of all his time, usually taking 30-35% (typically Sunday and Thursday nights, and every other Wednesday). I have never prevented him from any of his time, he just doesn't take it.
I am wondering what my options are legally, at least to give him some sense of urgency over the matter of school attendance. He has a history of kids going to school from his house in the same clothes they left me in, not sending things with them that they need, general disorganization, repeatedly dropping them off late, etc. and I have learned to pick my battles. But I don't feel I can overlook him just randomly having them out of school, especially as they get older and the work gets harder. When I ask him to please confirm that he will begin taking them when they are well he just tells me to relax.
Thank you.
We have two children, ages 9 and 12. In general the co-parenting goes relatively smoothly. However, father has a history of not taking children to school after overnights at his house, even when they are well. When I ask him why he did not take them to school he either gives no reason, says they didn't want to go/refused to go, or (sometimes) claims they did not feel well. He has recently learned that he can request a note from the doctor for random one-off days and they will provide, so they look like legitimate, excused absences.
Divorce was final 2010. Court order says we share legal and physical custody. It says we are to share time 50/50 but he has never taken advantage of all his time, usually taking 30-35% (typically Sunday and Thursday nights, and every other Wednesday). I have never prevented him from any of his time, he just doesn't take it.
I am wondering what my options are legally, at least to give him some sense of urgency over the matter of school attendance. He has a history of kids going to school from his house in the same clothes they left me in, not sending things with them that they need, general disorganization, repeatedly dropping them off late, etc. and I have learned to pick my battles. But I don't feel I can overlook him just randomly having them out of school, especially as they get older and the work gets harder. When I ask him to please confirm that he will begin taking them when they are well he just tells me to relax.
Thank you.