Father's Day weekend

[RyansMom08]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

Me again... Just a quick one this time!
In the Court order it says I get one weekend of my choice for my son to "skip" a weekend with his Dad. I asked him in April if it could be the weekend of June 20. He said that would not be a problem. Now he says no because it is Father's day weekend. Normally I wouldnt care, but I had a trip planned to go home for the first time in seven months. Do I have the right to keep him anyways? I know he usually gets Fathers' day, but he originally agreed.
I have already given him a week that wasnt in the court order, and am letting him have him a week in October right before he leaves...I dont want to be petty and immature, but why should I keep being nice to him when all he does is cuss me out, yell at me, and change his mind on decisions already made. Now he says he wants no contact (which is impossible for obvious reasons)

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

Me again... Just a quick one this time!
In the Court order it says I get one weekend of my choice for my son to "skip" a weekend with his Dad. I asked him in April if it could be the weekend of June 20. He said that would not be a problem. Now he says no because it is Father's day weekend. Normally I wouldnt care, but I had a trip planned to go home for the first time in seven months. Do I have the right to keep him anyways? I know he usually gets Fathers' day, but he originally agreed.
I have already given him a week that wasnt in the court order, and am letting him have him a week in October right before he leaves...I dont want to be petty and immature, but why should I keep being nice to him when all he does is cuss me out, yell at me, and change his mind on decisions already made. Now he says he wants no contact (which is impossible for obvious reasons)

would you please give the child to dad for father's day. go to see YOUR family without him and pick another weekend. dad probably didn't realize it was father's day that weekend when he said yes.

don't be silly. OP.

 

[RyansMom08]

That would not be a problem if home was not so far away. I probably will not be able to go back again for several months.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

Me again... Just a quick one this time!
In the Court order it says I get one weekend of my choice for my son to "skip" a weekend with his Dad. I asked him in April if it could be the weekend of June 20. He said that would not be a problem. Now he says no because it is Father's day weekend. Normally I wouldnt care, but I had a trip planned to go home for the first time in seven months. Do I have the right to keep him anyways? I know he usually gets Fathers' day, but he originally agreed.
I have already given him a week that wasnt in the court order, and am letting him have him a week in October right before he leaves...I dont want to be petty and immature, but why should I keep being nice to him when all he does is cuss me out, yell at me, and change his mind on decisions already made. Now he says he wants no contact (which is impossible for obvious reasons)

Mom, I think that a judge would absolutely slam you for that. You should have known that it was Father's Day weekend and you never should have asked for it in the first place.

Yes, you get a weekend of your choice, but Father's Day is a holiday and you do NOT get to choose a holiday. You will need to change YOUR plans.

If you were just going for a weekend then pick a different weekend. If you were going for a week, just accept the fact that you won't get to leave until Monday.

 

[confuseddad2009]

I am a newbie from texas. I have no legal in my background. But I am a father and I agree with the previous reply. Dad probably didnt realize it was fathers day weekend. When you asked did you remind him it was fathers day weekend or go about it like it was any other weekend? Most fathers/Mothers wont give up their holiday. Would you give up Mothers Day weekend so dad could take your child somewhere? In Texas (at least my order) Fathers day weekend ends at 6PM on fathers day (sunday), so cant you leave at 6PM on Fathers day or Monday? I am sure your family will understand that your child is spending fathers day with his/her father

 

[stealth2]

I have to agree that you should rearrange your plans. Yes, it's "just a day" and he could celebrate it another time, I've lost a Mother's Day due to plans the ex made (I also had plans) and it's rather hurtful. Regardless how you perceive him to be towards you, take the higher road. For your child's sake.

 

[wileybunch]

And, you had *no idea* that one single weekend you targeted was also Father's Day weekend? Uh huh ...

 

[stealth2]

And, for a more "legal" answer - you have a court order which specifies that Father's Day is Dad's. Without anything in writing, signed by the judge, you may be found in contempt if you deny Dad his time. A verbal agreement is worthless. So... you may as well reconcile yourself to changing your plans - either leaving later (if it's more than a weekend trip), going on a different weekend, or going w/o your son.

And next time? Don't make plans on a holiday that is awarded to Dad.

 

[Newlydivmomto4]

Now I know how you senior folks feel when you want to reach through your computer and slap some sense into people.

 

[Isis1]

Now I know how you senior folks feel when you want to reach through your computer and slap some sense into people.

well, not slap. least not this one. lupus yes. this one, i'll do a "Nanny Jo Frost" and shake my finger at her.

 

[LdiJ]

And, for a more "legal" answer - you have a court order which specifies that Father's Day is Dad's. Without anything in writing, signed by the judge, you may be found in contempt if you deny Dad his time. A verbal agreement is worthless. So... you may as well reconcile yourself to changing your plans - either leaving later (if it's more than a weekend trip), going on a different weekend, or going w/o your son.

And next time? Don't make plans on a holiday that is awarded to Dad.

Well...I do need to point out that the TX standard guidelines do give her the unilateral right to choose one of dad's weekends during the period of time that dad does not have extended visitation, (that is how she gets some extended time to vacation) and also allows her to unilaterally choose one of dad's weekends during his extended summer time as well.

However, the right to unilaterally choose those weekends does not give her the right to choose a holiday that is dad's as one of those weekends. Holidays supercede regular parenting time and those unilateral weekends she gets to choose are regular parenting time.

That doesn't mean that I don't agree with everyone else...I think that I have made that clear...I just wanted to point out that she does have the right to unilaterally take a couple of his summer weekends...just not when the weekend is his holiday.

 

[sipa]

When I read the header I said out loud:

Oh for God's sake give him Father's day.

Here in NJ holidays supercede schedules. Give him the day, after all it is not often everyone agree's on this board..

 

[kids123]

I agree..... It is "Father's" day. One that is not to be disputed.
My daughter will be at church camp the week b4 Father's Day, and I am picking her up early from there so it does not interfere with Dad's day. We all have to compromise when it comes to our plans. But just know that if you keep the child on his day, not only are you going against court orders, but Dad will probably look for revenge later. Like next year on "Mother's" Day.