What is the name of your state?
New York, Oswego County
My son is so sad he says he always thinks about killing himself! HE IS TEN!
My son will be 11 in August...he is a great little boy with a big heart and some special issues. He has Tourettes, ADHD, and Pervasive Hypersensitivity Disorder (Just a fancy word for being VERY emotionally sensitive!!!)
His Dad and I have, what the court order calls, 50/50 parenting time...and it is pretty dang close, too! He is with me every weekend, holiday, and every school vacation (X-mas, mid-winter, spring and all summer). Court order states "50/50 parenting time...days when academics are in session, child will reside with the father, days when academics are not in session, child will reside with Mother"
Just so you know, in case there is any wondering....NO...his Dad and I DO NOT get along...there is a LONG history of stalking and verbal and emotional abuse towards me. To this day even, and we haven't been together in 9 years.
My son had been saying for years that he doesn't want to live with his Dad..."he drinks beer all the time and hides in the basement working on "things" for the house...he doesn't spend any time with me Mom and the only thing there is to eat here are ramine noodles".
I had to, just recently, take my son to the emergency room for severe impaction causing bleeding down the back of his legs. Doctor stated it was caused from his nutritional needs not being met at home - leading to severe constipation, recal fissures and dehydration. Fahter sent him to school like that....I picked him up from school to take him....
Dad told my son 4 weeks ago to walk up and down the street with the push mower asking for $15 from neighbors so that Dad could have more money to pay bills......
Dad came out of the blue and asked our son if he would be happier living with mom and my boy said yes, yes, yes. Dad then told him that if it was what would make him truly happy he would make it happen and he promised him. The next day my son said he woke up to find Dad sitting on the edge of his bed. When he was fully awake Dad started screaming so hard that spit was flying out of his mouth - saying he would never left him leave, that Mom was evil, that he would have to sell his house, that he can't live with his Mom and 1/2 Sister because he would never be able to visit Dad again.....
My son called me that morning after Dad left for work crying hysterically....saying that he was terrified of Dad and that he was so sad at Dads he always thinks about killing himself!
AND he has reiterated those feelings to me several times over the past few weeks!
I called Child Protective Services within the hour and picked him up THAT day for "summer vacation". Two counties interviewed, the county his Dad lives in says there is not an immediate threat of danger ?!?!?!?!? ...my county says there are real issues and that I might want to "consider" filing for modification (DUH?).
I filed for Modification on July 3rd in my county, and filed an order to show cause to get emergency temporary custody because of his threats to kill himself if he is sent back to Dads to live for school....Modification order accepted....emergency custody denied (I figured it would be...grumble...)
Scary part about that is.....the return date isn't until September 7th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
School starts September 5th ... by the court order I have to have him to Dads for School.
The last thing I want is for my son to feel those feeling again and have him follow through with his threats!
Here is my question.
I was told by three UNprofessionals that because there is a court date scheduled for modification of custody that I don't have to return him. Is that crazy, that's crazy, right?? I don't want to do anything that will put this case in jeopardy, ya know? But I don't want anything to happen to my son either.....should I file another "Order to show cause" in case the judge didn't hear me well enough? Should I call the court to see if they can get us in earlier?
AND....
Should I file for an order of protection for my son to protect him from his father?
I mean, it may be emotional abuse, but abuse is abuse, right? And isn't what Dad did on the edge of the bed considered harassing behavior?
Thanks in advance for any kind direction you could give....
Chris
New York, Oswego County
My son is so sad he says he always thinks about killing himself! HE IS TEN!
My son will be 11 in August...he is a great little boy with a big heart and some special issues. He has Tourettes, ADHD, and Pervasive Hypersensitivity Disorder (Just a fancy word for being VERY emotionally sensitive!!!)
His Dad and I have, what the court order calls, 50/50 parenting time...and it is pretty dang close, too! He is with me every weekend, holiday, and every school vacation (X-mas, mid-winter, spring and all summer). Court order states "50/50 parenting time...days when academics are in session, child will reside with the father, days when academics are not in session, child will reside with Mother"
Just so you know, in case there is any wondering....NO...his Dad and I DO NOT get along...there is a LONG history of stalking and verbal and emotional abuse towards me. To this day even, and we haven't been together in 9 years.
My son had been saying for years that he doesn't want to live with his Dad..."he drinks beer all the time and hides in the basement working on "things" for the house...he doesn't spend any time with me Mom and the only thing there is to eat here are ramine noodles".
I had to, just recently, take my son to the emergency room for severe impaction causing bleeding down the back of his legs. Doctor stated it was caused from his nutritional needs not being met at home - leading to severe constipation, recal fissures and dehydration. Fahter sent him to school like that....I picked him up from school to take him....
Dad told my son 4 weeks ago to walk up and down the street with the push mower asking for $15 from neighbors so that Dad could have more money to pay bills......
Dad came out of the blue and asked our son if he would be happier living with mom and my boy said yes, yes, yes. Dad then told him that if it was what would make him truly happy he would make it happen and he promised him. The next day my son said he woke up to find Dad sitting on the edge of his bed. When he was fully awake Dad started screaming so hard that spit was flying out of his mouth - saying he would never left him leave, that Mom was evil, that he would have to sell his house, that he can't live with his Mom and 1/2 Sister because he would never be able to visit Dad again.....
My son called me that morning after Dad left for work crying hysterically....saying that he was terrified of Dad and that he was so sad at Dads he always thinks about killing himself!
AND he has reiterated those feelings to me several times over the past few weeks!I called Child Protective Services within the hour and picked him up THAT day for "summer vacation". Two counties interviewed, the county his Dad lives in says there is not an immediate threat of danger ?!?!?!?!? ...my county says there are real issues and that I might want to "consider" filing for modification (DUH?).
I filed for Modification on July 3rd in my county, and filed an order to show cause to get emergency temporary custody because of his threats to kill himself if he is sent back to Dads to live for school....Modification order accepted....emergency custody denied (I figured it would be...grumble...)
Scary part about that is.....the return date isn't until September 7th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
School starts September 5th ... by the court order I have to have him to Dads for School.
The last thing I want is for my son to feel those feeling again and have him follow through with his threats!
Here is my question.
I was told by three UNprofessionals that because there is a court date scheduled for modification of custody that I don't have to return him. Is that crazy, that's crazy, right?? I don't want to do anything that will put this case in jeopardy, ya know? But I don't want anything to happen to my son either.....should I file another "Order to show cause" in case the judge didn't hear me well enough? Should I call the court to see if they can get us in earlier?
AND....
Should I file for an order of protection for my son to protect him from his father?
I mean, it may be emotional abuse, but abuse is abuse, right? And isn't what Dad did on the edge of the bed considered harassing behavior?
Thanks in advance for any kind direction you could give....
Chris