Fighting for best interest of children over a selfish person

[thinklafiction]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Los Angeles, CA
My exhusband never cared for our children (ages 3 & 2) and that's the main reason we are divorcing. He would pick his basketball game over our children or skip giving the kids a bath for a week straight. Now that we are divorcing, he is fighting for custody of our children for his mother because she wants to take care of our children for him although he does not live with her. HIs mother is disabled and is incapable of taking care of our children the way they require to be. I don't want to lose my children to her or him. What can I do?

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Los Angeles, CA
My exhusband never cared for our children (ages 3 & 2) and that's the main reason we are divorcing. He would pick his basketball game over our children or skip giving the kids a bath for a week straight. Now that we are divorcing, he is fighting for custody of our children for his mother because she wants to take care of our children for him although he does not live with her. HIs mother is disabled and is incapable of taking care of our children the way they require to be. I don't want to lose my children to her or him. What can I do?

can you not post a new thread for every question? it really doesn't help the seniors answer your questions appropriately.

 

[thinklafiction]

So sorry, I didn't know I could continue the same thread with different questions. It won't happen again.

 

[cry4me]

You can expect that Dad WILL have some part in raising HIS children. Even "bad" (as you seam to make him out to be) parents get some kind of visitation. You can bet that if Dad wants to let his mother see/take care of the kids during HIS visitation time, that can happen. Sorry Mom.

 

[Ohiogal]

A selfish person? How are YOU not being selfish?

 

[cyjeff]

Apparently, mom thought dad should dance to her tune and thinks he has an anger problem because he got mad instead.

I have to tell you... after reading these two posts, I am on Dad's side on this one.... I would have hit the door running.

And OP, if you don't check YOUR attitude towards your ex, you are going to lose custody... because you won't be able to avoid belittling dad in front of HIS children.

My favorite part? Where there was terrible and inappropriate fighting in front of the children but only dad was fighting. Yeah. Right.

Then mom says, "well of course I fought back, I had to stand up for myself in front of the children. Are you suggesting that I just take it?"

Of course, just "taking it" was what she expected Dad to do when SHE confronted him about his "inappropriate" parenting.

Mom is looking for an employee or a butler rather than a father.

Yup... hit the door running I would.