yellow_rose
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Illinois, but they are in Texas
My ex-husband, our daughter, and his girlfriend live in Texas. I live in Chicago. I had to move up here when I couldn't find work in Houston after the Enron crash. It was a hard-hard-hard decision that still breaks my heart. I am absolutely every bit as active in our daughter's life as I could possibly be otherwise.
My ex and I have Joint Custody. He has violated every term of it. I can't get copies of her report card, his girlfriend is conducting parent teacher conferences with our daughter's school and not even telling me about them, much less copying me on the emails she's been sending. They've enrolled her in therapy and have not told me or involved me. When my daughter was hospitalized, I was not told until after she was home.
I am not an absentee mom. I have been begging and pleading for years to be kept informed of all things relevant to my daughter when she is not in my care. I want her here with me and being a high school student, of course she wants to stay with her friends in Texas. I have to respect what is ultimately in her best interest. I do not want to rock her boat so I am left just trying to make sure I am getting all the information I can possibly get and stay as involved as humanly possible. Per the Joint Custody agreement, he is supposed to involve me in all school, religious, and medical decisions. He has not. He has also interfered with my parenting time, refused to honor the schedule, and tried very hard to alienate my daughter from me. When she is with me, she cries about how could I have abandoned her. -His words. She says all the things he says to me. How could I have not honored their marriage by working outside the home...All of it very skewed to his side. He's been working very hard to poison her against me for a long time. I tell him it's wrong, that it's only hurting her, and he says, "Right." and yells at me. He pulled her out of her old school and his girlfriend enrolled her in a new one without even talking to me. How can they do that?
I can't take it anymore. I have a court order that guarantees my rights that is not being honored. What can I do? She's now a freshman in high school, failing classes, in therapy, seriously overweight, and he uses the custody agreement as toilet paper.
As I mentioned, I live in Chicago. They are in Texas. All I have ever asked is to have the agreement honored and be given 100% of the information relevant to our daughter's life. He said even just tonight that "it's not a priority for me".
One last thing, this is absolutely not a petty thing with the girlfriend. We've been divorced about 13 years. It is most sincerely an issue with him refusing to honor my role as her mother and alienating me from my daughter. The girlfriend is extremely pushy and I get the impression that she steamrolls the house.
What do the courts do in these cases?
Thank you in advance for any input you may have.
My ex-husband, our daughter, and his girlfriend live in Texas. I live in Chicago. I had to move up here when I couldn't find work in Houston after the Enron crash. It was a hard-hard-hard decision that still breaks my heart. I am absolutely every bit as active in our daughter's life as I could possibly be otherwise.
My ex and I have Joint Custody. He has violated every term of it. I can't get copies of her report card, his girlfriend is conducting parent teacher conferences with our daughter's school and not even telling me about them, much less copying me on the emails she's been sending. They've enrolled her in therapy and have not told me or involved me. When my daughter was hospitalized, I was not told until after she was home.
I am not an absentee mom. I have been begging and pleading for years to be kept informed of all things relevant to my daughter when she is not in my care. I want her here with me and being a high school student, of course she wants to stay with her friends in Texas. I have to respect what is ultimately in her best interest. I do not want to rock her boat so I am left just trying to make sure I am getting all the information I can possibly get and stay as involved as humanly possible. Per the Joint Custody agreement, he is supposed to involve me in all school, religious, and medical decisions. He has not. He has also interfered with my parenting time, refused to honor the schedule, and tried very hard to alienate my daughter from me. When she is with me, she cries about how could I have abandoned her. -His words. She says all the things he says to me. How could I have not honored their marriage by working outside the home...All of it very skewed to his side. He's been working very hard to poison her against me for a long time. I tell him it's wrong, that it's only hurting her, and he says, "Right." and yells at me. He pulled her out of her old school and his girlfriend enrolled her in a new one without even talking to me. How can they do that?
I can't take it anymore. I have a court order that guarantees my rights that is not being honored. What can I do? She's now a freshman in high school, failing classes, in therapy, seriously overweight, and he uses the custody agreement as toilet paper.
As I mentioned, I live in Chicago. They are in Texas. All I have ever asked is to have the agreement honored and be given 100% of the information relevant to our daughter's life. He said even just tonight that "it's not a priority for me".
One last thing, this is absolutely not a petty thing with the girlfriend. We've been divorced about 13 years. It is most sincerely an issue with him refusing to honor my role as her mother and alienating me from my daughter. The girlfriend is extremely pushy and I get the impression that she steamrolls the house.
What do the courts do in these cases?
Thank you in advance for any input you may have.
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