What is the name of your state? IL
I am posting this for my dad. Brief background...he's been married to my stepmom for almost 16 years, she's having an "emotional affair" (as she calls it) with another man for the past 2 years, and my dad has tired working things out with her, but the situation is getting worse. She's never really worked (her choice,and she is quite able to work), does not drive, cook or clean. They got their tax return back, and she insisted on half of it to pay her credit card and some medical bills. She is planning something drastic soon, because she now refuses to use the money to pay her bills, and my dad has a few questions:
1) He just found out she has 4 credit cards that are in her name only. He has not signed any applications for them, and obviously any balances on them are not his. In the event of separation or divorce, is he responsible for them?
2) Their apartment lease is in both their names. Can either party change the locks and keep the other one out? (I think I know the answer to this one, but I told him I'd ask anyway).
3) She has many medical bills and bill collectors are calling the house all the time. My dad's insurance paid most of the stuff, and what's left is the copays. The bill collectors will only talk to her, not him. Will he be responsible for these?
4) With regard to working...she refuses to work, stating she is "disabled", but yet she holds a position of treasurer or secretary (I am not sure which) on a board of directors of a corporation. Can this be used as proof that she is able to work and hold down a position in order to secure gainful employment?
5) Is he required, at this point in time, to leave money available to her, out of his income? He pays the rent, the bills, groceries, and clothing. SHe has an inheritance from her dad that she refuses to use, even when my dad was out of work for almost a month. They used to get $75 a week each for allowance, and he has been wanting to lower the amount to catch up on bills, but everytime he tries, she goes ballistic.
I would appreciate any advice on this. Please keep sarcasm and nasty comments to a minimum....I know he's an idiot for putting up with her and I am glad he is finally doing something about it.
I am posting this for my dad. Brief background...he's been married to my stepmom for almost 16 years, she's having an "emotional affair" (as she calls it) with another man for the past 2 years, and my dad has tired working things out with her, but the situation is getting worse. She's never really worked (her choice,and she is quite able to work), does not drive, cook or clean. They got their tax return back, and she insisted on half of it to pay her credit card and some medical bills. She is planning something drastic soon, because she now refuses to use the money to pay her bills, and my dad has a few questions:
1) He just found out she has 4 credit cards that are in her name only. He has not signed any applications for them, and obviously any balances on them are not his. In the event of separation or divorce, is he responsible for them?
2) Their apartment lease is in both their names. Can either party change the locks and keep the other one out? (I think I know the answer to this one, but I told him I'd ask anyway).
3) She has many medical bills and bill collectors are calling the house all the time. My dad's insurance paid most of the stuff, and what's left is the copays. The bill collectors will only talk to her, not him. Will he be responsible for these?
4) With regard to working...she refuses to work, stating she is "disabled", but yet she holds a position of treasurer or secretary (I am not sure which) on a board of directors of a corporation. Can this be used as proof that she is able to work and hold down a position in order to secure gainful employment?
5) Is he required, at this point in time, to leave money available to her, out of his income? He pays the rent, the bills, groceries, and clothing. SHe has an inheritance from her dad that she refuses to use, even when my dad was out of work for almost a month. They used to get $75 a week each for allowance, and he has been wanting to lower the amount to catch up on bills, but everytime he tries, she goes ballistic.
I would appreciate any advice on this. Please keep sarcasm and nasty comments to a minimum....I know he's an idiot for putting up with her and I am glad he is finally doing something about it.
