Follow up on tuff one

[RedStar]

What is the name of your state? California
This is the second time I am writing but not because I didnt get the answer. I will be honest. I am afraid. I am a sole being on this planet and there are only two beings that would make me do absolutley anything. From defending Stalingrad to slave all my years. it doesnt matter as long as I know they are there.
My ex made alligations in the past that no matter how much it will cost her, she will remove me from my kids life.
Now she found some addball reason (I can tell you details if you want) and basically told me that from now on I DONT SEE THE KIDS WITHOUT HER BEING PRESENT. Eventhough the court papers said otherwise, I am left without my love and reason.
I dont know if any of you had this but my brain is a complete mess. If I wont get my girs back, I see no point of going through this.
Even though court papers said otherwise, She just told me that starting next week, she will be there or nothing at all.
Ladies, Gentlemen... what do I do. Please ask me all the questions you need but help me to get my girls back. Thank you

 

[escape2paradise]

What is the name of your state? California
This is the second time I am writing but not because I didnt get the answer. I will be honest. I am afraid. I am a sole being on this planet and there are only two beings that would make me do absolutley anything. From defending Stalingrad to slave all my years. it doesnt matter as long as I know they are there.
My ex made alligations in the past that no matter how much it will cost her, she will remove me from my kids life.
Now she found some addball reason (I can tell you details if you want) and basically told me that from now on I DONT SEE THE KIDS WITHOUT HER BEING PRESENT. Eventhough the court papers said otherwise, I am left without my love and reason.
I dont know if any of you had this but my brain is a complete mess. If I wont get my girs back, I see no point of going through this.
Even though court papers said otherwise, She just told me that starting next week, she will be there or nothing at all.
Ladies, Gentlemen... what do I do. Please ask me all the questions you need but help me to get my girls back. Thank you

If you have a court order granting you regular visitation, she can't just summarily add on stipulations and guidelines for the heck of it. Unless the order states visitation to be supervised she will be in contempt of court if she does not allow you to take the children and go as you please. If she plans on staying at your place with them, kick her little but out and call the police if she refuses to go.

 

[RedStar]

That is a right thing to do. I got to grow some brass ones and maybe involve the police. I wonder if she has some stuff on me on camera.... Thanks God I was ehosted most of the time. She asked me to stay with kids for the whole week (person who doesnt trust me huhu....)

 

[Just Blue]

Okay...I'll bite...What is the "oddball" reason?

 

[LdiJ]

Okay...I'll bite...What is the "oddball" reason?

This is actually a duplicate thread. Apparently mom has had some problems with his care of the children, and last weekend he lost the youngest for a short time.

I think we probably need to have more background on his situation before responding too forcefully. Apparently mom's attorney has advised her to do this.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? California
This is the second time I am writing but not because I didnt get the answer. I will be honest. I am afraid. I am a sole being on this planet and there are only two beings that would make me do absolutley anything. From defending Stalingrad to slave all my years. it doesnt matter as long as I know they are there.
My ex made alligations in the past that no matter how much it will cost her, she will remove me from my kids life.
Now she found some addball reason (I can tell you details if you want) and basically told me that from now on I DONT SEE THE KIDS WITHOUT HER BEING PRESENT. Eventhough the court papers said otherwise, I am left without my love and reason.
I dont know if any of you had this but my brain is a complete mess. If I wont get my girs back, I see no point of going through this.
Even though court papers said otherwise, She just told me that starting next week, she will be there or nothing at all.
Ladies, Gentlemen... what do I do. Please ask me all the questions you need but help me to get my girls back. Thank you

I read your other thread~ However, THIS is the appropriate forum for your situation, not Divorce & Alimony.

First of all it's illegal to record conversations in CA unless ALL PARTIES consent. Meaning if she recorded it, it's illegal...and her attorney will tell her so.

Secondly, SHE cannot usurp the Court's authority over Visitation. It doesn't matter if she hired an attorney or not...and she does NOT say her attorney advised her to withhold visitation. Show up for your regularly scheduled visitation...if you are denied, then contact the local police- show them your Court Order & ask for a report to be filed. Get a copy of that report for your records.
UNLESS/UNTIL you are served with any kind of Custody/Visitation action...then she is just trying to convince you to give her what she wants. Which is not legal & is not the proper procedure for this.

Losing a child is terrifying, but having one bolt out the door at a Restaurant happens to most parents. You immediately found the child...she was not missing for 'hours' and it's up to MOM to PROVE the allegation that the children are at risk while in your care.

Save that e-mail, it shows clear intent of Mom to "look for" anything to be used to try to deny you visitation. Boy, her attorney won't like that one.

Stay the course unless/until you are served with any official paperwork, in which case, come back for further advice.

 

[stealth2]

Why do I get a feeling that there is more to this story?

 

[RedStar]

I apologize for my spelling but hope made it clear enough to understand me. How much of a whole story could I fit in the forum window, I don’t know.
However, If I would not be prepare to be open on anything, I would not even come here.
As I understand, my ex was writing here as well. If anyone would like to hear more, please let me know or may take it offline if you shall.
I spoke to the lawyer just recently. He wanted me immediately to get an attorney as well as quick as possible and even offer to refer to one of his co-workers.
Not knowing if I have to do it jus yet, I will go on preparing all the docs from cort and see if I can do it.
Sorry for bad spelling.
Cheers

 

[ezmarelda]

I apologize for my spelling but hope made it clear enough to understand me. How much of a whole story could I fit in the forum window, I don’t know.
However, If I would not be prepare to be open on anything, I would not even come here.
As I understand, my ex was writing here as well. If anyone would like to hear more, please let me know or may take it offline if you shall.
I spoke to the lawyer just recently. He wanted me immediately to get an attorney as well as quick as possible and even offer to refer to one of his co-workers.
Not knowing if I have to do it jus yet, I will go on preparing all the docs from cort and see if I can do it.
Sorry for bad spelling.
Cheers

Re reead casa's advice it's the best you got...good luck

 

[wileybunch]

casa is right. Your ex doesn't have any authority to make or change court orders. That's what's called "contempt of court." Neither do you. If either party felt they had a reason to change something, the burden is on them to get into court and present facts for the judge to weigh and rule on (with both parties given the opportunity to present evidence). One party cannot take the law into their own hands. There are ways to get emergency hearings if the situation is desperate.

If her attorney is the one suggesting you use one of his coworkers, you can't. Conflict of interest.

Make sure you are following your court order to a T for your visitation times, show up when you are supposed to. Whether or not you involve the police is a judgment call, IMO. We were advised if the kids were younger it would be a good move so the kids understand Mom needs to respect authority as do they, but when the kids are older, tweens/teens, this can backfire. Your priority should be on getting back into court if she intends to keep this new rule up.

 

[RedStar]

Schedule is to be changed by court. Not me. Not her.
I definitely will be when its time to pick my kids. She will make scene but I do want my kids to know I was there.

 

[RedStar]

Just wonder where everyone seen her post . Do I have the need though?

 

[RedStar]

My Kids post

Funny but I just found a little stereo recorder that I bought about 3 month ago at Best Buy to use for my job interview. Can any of the statements made on it by my two girls be used or necessary to be used anywhere? Can any of this be used to show how girls feel?

 

[CJane]

Funny but I just found a little stereo recorder that I bought about 3 month ago at Best Buy to use for my job interview. Can any of the statements made on it by my two girls be used or necessary to be used anywhere? Can any of this be used to show how girls feel?

NO!

DO NOT record your children.

DO NOT ask them their feelings about who they want to live with, when they want to visit, etc.

Just forget you even thought of it.

 

[Silverplum]

NO!

DO NOT record your children.

DO NOT ask them their feelings about who they want to live with, when they want to visit, etc.

Just forget you even thought of it.

CJane is right! Don't even THINK about it!