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cricket37
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I never really received any advice from the last question posted here but in reading as many as possible from all of you, I wanted to share my situation in hopes it helps let you know you are not alone out there!
Situation: Son age 16, goes to live, with my blessing, with his father at age 14. Why? I was going through a bad divorce thought it was best. May 12, 2001 his father was arrested for Drugs/in possession of them too. He got out on OR and I sought emergency temporary custody and got it. My son does not, and I mean does not want to live with me. Why? I am not allowing him to be a man and do exactly what he wants. I suck and I am boring. The father has no visitation (mediator stated NO visitations) based on the fathers irrational behavior and denial of his drug problem. The father has convinced my son to runaway to him (against court order) because the the father claims the law won't do anything to a young man wanting to live with his father. So my son did just that, I called the police department and they told me that because my son made the contact to his father it was not a criminal act. So of course nothing was done about it. ( what good is court order?)I did, 2 days later, get my son home. After that I initiated counseling and felt we needed it badly. (not helping though) The father now retained an attorney, I can't because I do not have the funds for it. The rotten little Glenn County CA that I am dealing with has the attitude that drugs are no big deal and it is no different than drinking a beer. The Judge has previously represented my ex on previous charges of drugs, when he was a court appointed attorney. That Judge has made it perfectly clear he does not like me. When I asked to have the Child support stopped until this was resolved he yelled at me and stated if this does not go through I would be paying it all back! I have been paying the father, that drug addict, Child Support for 2 months while I have had my son. That Ex has screamed at me and threatened that he and his attorney will prove that I am unfit mother and a prostitute a druggie etc. How do all of you like these apples? What do you think this is doing to our 16 year old son? He behaves as though he came from an occult. Believe in the system? Not on your life! I already know I will loose this battle....I decided to do a backround check on my Ex, he has a rack of charges dating back 16 years (which I never knew)including a Felony for being in possession of a firearm. My son hates me, the court doesn't support what is morally right, the Judge is Bias, I am made out to be the bad guy here! I wish I could go to sleep and just not wake up anymore. But that makes me no better than him. For all of you! Continue to fight for what is right for your kids and if only a few of you make it than I guess it is worth it. Pray for me please, I love that boy with my life and I wish his father got what he truely deserves for being evil, and brain washing a 16 year old into believing drugs are OK. but it appears evil people (like him) seem to rule and always get out of everything! I won't give up hope because that is all I have left.
Tired of fighting a loosing battle....
[Edited by cricket37 on 07-12-2001 at 01:27 PM]
Situation: Son age 16, goes to live, with my blessing, with his father at age 14. Why? I was going through a bad divorce thought it was best. May 12, 2001 his father was arrested for Drugs/in possession of them too. He got out on OR and I sought emergency temporary custody and got it. My son does not, and I mean does not want to live with me. Why? I am not allowing him to be a man and do exactly what he wants. I suck and I am boring. The father has no visitation (mediator stated NO visitations) based on the fathers irrational behavior and denial of his drug problem. The father has convinced my son to runaway to him (against court order) because the the father claims the law won't do anything to a young man wanting to live with his father. So my son did just that, I called the police department and they told me that because my son made the contact to his father it was not a criminal act. So of course nothing was done about it. ( what good is court order?)I did, 2 days later, get my son home. After that I initiated counseling and felt we needed it badly. (not helping though) The father now retained an attorney, I can't because I do not have the funds for it. The rotten little Glenn County CA that I am dealing with has the attitude that drugs are no big deal and it is no different than drinking a beer. The Judge has previously represented my ex on previous charges of drugs, when he was a court appointed attorney. That Judge has made it perfectly clear he does not like me. When I asked to have the Child support stopped until this was resolved he yelled at me and stated if this does not go through I would be paying it all back! I have been paying the father, that drug addict, Child Support for 2 months while I have had my son. That Ex has screamed at me and threatened that he and his attorney will prove that I am unfit mother and a prostitute a druggie etc. How do all of you like these apples? What do you think this is doing to our 16 year old son? He behaves as though he came from an occult. Believe in the system? Not on your life! I already know I will loose this battle....I decided to do a backround check on my Ex, he has a rack of charges dating back 16 years (which I never knew)including a Felony for being in possession of a firearm. My son hates me, the court doesn't support what is morally right, the Judge is Bias, I am made out to be the bad guy here! I wish I could go to sleep and just not wake up anymore. But that makes me no better than him. For all of you! Continue to fight for what is right for your kids and if only a few of you make it than I guess it is worth it. Pray for me please, I love that boy with my life and I wish his father got what he truely deserves for being evil, and brain washing a 16 year old into believing drugs are OK. but it appears evil people (like him) seem to rule and always get out of everything! I won't give up hope because that is all I have left.
Tired of fighting a loosing battle....
[Edited by cricket37 on 07-12-2001 at 01:27 PM]