LdiJ
Senior Member
Ok...I was referring to the school after care programs, they usually cut off at a certain age. Also, I know that in many states that before/after care programs cut off at age 13...even when they aren't school programs.casa said:Without FROR that will be unlikely- which is why I said OP should talk to their attorney about FROR if that is her concern.
Whether the father passes by the mother's house doesn't mean anything definative...many people obtain childcare closer to the child's school or the parents work for convenience and emergency purposes.
12 year old are not excluded from aftercare- they may graduate to YMCA or some other community program, but 12 year olds certainly have aftercare options aside from school based programs (which we don't even know if this particular program is attached to the children's school or one which transports children to & from the school). My middle school child is not left home alone because she is ADHD and bless her academically gifted heart- her social awareness & common sense are not what I would deem adequate for being left alone.
LdiJ you are typically very supportive of a mother and father's amendment rights to parent their child...did it occur to you that the father just wants to have/maintain those rights and be able to be trusted to make his own decisions re; the health & welfare of the children? OP does not state the father is busy dictating to her what to do/not to do with the children during her time. (and she works all day at least one day- sometimes that is a weekend day- where are the children then?0
I can certainly understand why dad wants to make his own decisions on his time. I sympathize with that. However, I honestly don't believe that its reasonable for a child to be in before/after school care if the other parent is available to provide the care....and particularly when its of no inconvience to the parent whose time it is, to drop off/pick up the children. In this case, particularly the before school care, since the children have to be there so early. It is making life unnecessarily hard on the kids.
I also have seen many judges make orders allowing the other parent to provide daycare on the parent's time. Therefore I honestly don't think its an issue that a judge would consider to be petty. Mom may not win, but I don't think the judge is going to view it as petty. I think she is justified in trying...and I would think that a father in the same position was also justified in trying.