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What is the name of your state? NC
Brother and sister (of 97 year old father) - they never got along. Brother has both Power of Attorney for Medical and Property for the father.
Father always stated that he NEVER wanted to go into a Nursing Home - he has the money to be privately cared for at home. Now that he had another fall (older ladies hired - cheaply - to care for him not physically capable) which broke his ankle, the brother took that opportunity to put him in a Nursing Home "signed in for life".
Now the house is up for sale - soon there won't be an excuse that he can return to his home and be cared for - sister extremely upset at seeing him in NH propped up in a chair all day in the tv room with dozens of others... no one on one stimulation - breaks her heart! He begs her to "get me out of here" every time...
Isn't the person who has the Power of Attorney supposed to "follow the wishes" of that person (assuming they are known)?
What recourse does the sister have? She doesn't want it to seem like she is trying to gain control of the money (she isn't, she just cares about his well-being) and her brother is going to cause all kinds of grief. There is an attorney for her father - should she write him with her concerns about his wishes being followed (even if it costs more, which he can afford, or takes more effort because we think that is one reason he was put in there - less work for the son)?
Brother and sister (of 97 year old father) - they never got along. Brother has both Power of Attorney for Medical and Property for the father.
Father always stated that he NEVER wanted to go into a Nursing Home - he has the money to be privately cared for at home. Now that he had another fall (older ladies hired - cheaply - to care for him not physically capable) which broke his ankle, the brother took that opportunity to put him in a Nursing Home "signed in for life".
Now the house is up for sale - soon there won't be an excuse that he can return to his home and be cared for - sister extremely upset at seeing him in NH propped up in a chair all day in the tv room with dozens of others... no one on one stimulation - breaks her heart! He begs her to "get me out of here" every time...
Isn't the person who has the Power of Attorney supposed to "follow the wishes" of that person (assuming they are known)?
What recourse does the sister have? She doesn't want it to seem like she is trying to gain control of the money (she isn't, she just cares about his well-being) and her brother is going to cause all kinds of grief. There is an attorney for her father - should she write him with her concerns about his wishes being followed (even if it costs more, which he can afford, or takes more effort because we think that is one reason he was put in there - less work for the son)?