Giving up parental rights

[HFD35761]

There's a difference between bargaining and assigning an actual dollar amount to your child. If the OP wants nothing to do with his child from this point on, so be it. But he doesn't have the right to try and demand that the arrears be erased in exchange.

I am unsure where you see anywhere in my post that I am "demanding" the past support be erased in exchange for signing away my parental right. The question was whether in so doing would it also affect my past owed support because the document makes no mention of it.. The answers I have been seeing is that it does not. I'll still owe. Which makes sense to me, actually.

I've never fallen behind in the past 11 years. I was a combat medic in Iraq for almost 2 years when my enlistment in the Guard ended. When I got home I took some time to myself, and that is what caused me to fall behind. Was it right to do, no. Did it affect the child, no; his step-dad is loaded and the boy didn't hurt for anything. Will the past support be paid, most certainly. Again, I am not squabling over it, was just unsure about it because there was no mention in the document.


Thanks for all the input, everybody.
Be safe-

 

[GrowUp!]

I guess it depends on which state you live in. I didn't want it from my ex, and was told it wasn't up for me to decide. It was my childs money, not mine. I even tried to fight it. But there was nothing I could do, and it was up to the court to decide if he had to pay the arrears....which they still made him pay.

We're you on any state aid where the state's being re-paid? Also, if the bolded part were true, then the obligors should have the option of putting (some of) the money into savings accounts for college, etc. instead of going directly into the pockets of the other parent.

 

[JenniK]

No, I wasn't.

 

[ceara19]

I guess it depends on which state you live in. I didn't want it from my ex, and was told it wasn't up for me to decide. It was my childs money, not mine. I even tried to fight it. But there was nothing I could do, and it was up to the court to decide if he had to pay the arrears....which they still made him pay.

Actually, it is the PARENTS money, not the child's. Child support is for the PARENT to use for the child's necessary expenses, not for the child to spend on what they see fit. Child support arrears represent money that the custodial parent has already SPENT to support the child. The NCP would only be paying the CP back for money that the CP "fronted" for them.

Edit to add:

In any case, the arrears are never just "forgiven". If the CP decides to wipe out the debt, they have to submit a receipt to the collecting agency stating that the amount has been paid. Then it is credited to the account like any other "real" payment.

 

[ceara19]

I am unsure where you see anywhere in my post that I am "demanding" the past support be erased in exchange for signing away my parental right. The question was whether in so doing would it also affect my past owed support because the document makes no mention of it.. The answers I have been seeing is that it does not. I'll still owe. Which makes sense to me, actually.

I've never fallen behind in the past 11 years. I was a combat medic in Iraq for almost 2 years when my enlistment in the Guard ended. When I got home I took some time to myself, and that is what caused me to fall behind. Was it right to do, no. Did it affect the child, no; his step-dad is loaded and the boy didn't hurt for anything. Will the past support be paid, most certainly. Again, I am not squabling over it, was just unsure about it because there was no mention in the document.


Thanks for all the input, everybody.
Be safe-

The comment wasn't actually directed at you. I, in no way, have the impression that you are or ever will attempt to do that. It started with MrsK's response about "suggesting" asking mom to forgive the arrears and justalayman's comment about nothing being "wrong" with putting a price tag on your child's happiness.

I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to accuse YOU of any wrongdoing. But it is very common for an NCP to blackmail the CP in this manner. There are times when it is best for the child if a parent terminates their rights and allows the child to be adopted by a step parent, but money should not be a deciding factor.