going through same stuff

[kel4377]

Does he have a chance?

I was wondering if someone can help me, give some kind of advice. My husband has been going through problems with his daughters mother ever since we've been together. She's caused so many problems, I don't even know where to begin. To make the story short, she's threatened to slash our car tires, threatens my husband that he's never gonna see his daughter again, just for stupid things. She's very mentally unstable, and my husband wants to take her to court for custody of his daughter. Does he have grounds? Do you think he has a chance? Someone please help, she's caused more problems than I can even write about.

 

[Ashlee1443]

Maybe someone else with a little more info will chime in, but I do know that in order for your husband to be granted custody, he will need to prove her unfit. I understand you say she's mentally unstable, but the question is- is can you prove that in court? Keep documentation...I'm not sure what a judge would do in your case...harming or neglecting a child serves definite grounds for custody change....you didn't mention wether or not you suspected anything of this sort. Good luck.

 

[kel4377]

Well, my husband and I, and our familes all know she is mentally unstable, although it hasn't been professionally proved. If we have to though, we will do that. It's just so sad that it has to come down to this. We have police reports of her harrassment towards us, police report from when someone that she knows kept going to her house, supposedly trying to break in, that is a drug dealer, also we have kept recordings of all the times she has been late picking up his daughter or dropping her off, of the times she's denied his visitation days, and more.

 

[Ashlee1443]

If you are truly concerned for your step-child's saftey and well-being, I would definetly take this to court and explain this to the judge, otherwise, you'll continue worrying about this. Police reports are nice pieces of evidence to include in the hearing, if you decide to go that route. If your husband has court-ordered visitation, she could also be penalized for denying him that right also. As a mother, I would only want the best for my child...wether that would mean living with me or not. I think it is extremely selfish to put a child in danger, just to pi** the other parent off, if that makes sense. I'm not a step-mom, but I would treat my step-children as I would my own. I respect your concerns, and in my opinion, encourage you and your husband to do what you feel is right. This is your husband's child too, and if the child would benefit better in your home, I'd go for that. Good luck

 

[kel4377]

Thanks for the advice. I think it's gonna have to come down to that. She's just so selfish and doesn't think or care about anyone but herself. She puts herself in front of her own daughter and I think that is so pitiful. We tried to even settle this out of court, my husband just giving her a visitation schedule that he wanted to change, and she didn't even agree on that. She just wants her way, or no way. She didn't agree with alternating holidays, especially Christmas. She said she wants their daughter to wake up with her EVERY Christmas morning. That her house is her "home" and our house is just "daddy's house", so she should wake up on Christmas in her "home". How ridiculous and selfish is that!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????

 

[PoohBear8]

what state is this occurring in?