Grandma B are you nuts;or my sister's mother in-law

[hotpurple5]

Re:my 8/28, AM post, regarding my "witch sister has custody of grandchildren, believes control over me to deny visits" - I stated in this msg. that when my sisters' children were growing up- until the very day they left home- that she beat, stomped, screamed in rages at them and then you reply that it seems "your granddaughters have a good home... "that its "not about what adults want." ARE YOU NUTS? MY GRANDDAUGHTERS ARE 2 YEAR OLD TWINS AND 3 YRS OLD . The 3 yr old already has said that her aunt "hit me"& said that she pushed one of the twins fell in the yard when my sister "slapped her on the arm.." These precious babies are being abused physically, emotionally and will be forever damaged because 1) my idiot daughter chose her no-good whore boyfriend who guzzles straight from jugs of hard liquor over her own babies, and 2) the state of Ohio & the county Childrens Services Board chooses to not investigate because her money and her whining "I am a good Christian" (what a lie!!) is apparently more important than these precious babies' safety, mental, physical & emotional health. They are beautiful, intelligent, playful, loving girls - I only live in a 2 bdrm home & we have a 15 yr old son still @ home, & couldn't move to gain custody. They could have put my daughter in parenting (since everything I taught her means nothing - I am appalled that she would let this happen), substance abuse counseling, Al-Anon if she wanted to stay with the dad, and to monitor her compliance. That would have been MUCH cheaper than to put the twins in permanent custody of the state and to have to pay for the 3 year old in long-term care. Now that my sister is aware of how I feel, she must feel threatened - otherwise what would she have to fear - perhaps afraid of being found out- as the 3 yr old already told me she was "slapped?" Isn't it funny that after that conversation, I get no answer when I call, & she will not let me see my granddaughters??? CONSIDER the abuse Grandma B - MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING. How would YOU feel if you were a helpless 2 or 3 year old with no one to save you from being screamed at until you are so nervous you tremble, being slapped, pushed down in the yard by an ADULT. I will never forget the screams of her own 17 year old daughter, a few years ago when I called & our mother & I were on the phone & I inquired about the loud screams (I thought it was t.v., then recognized my niece); my mother replied "she's got her down on the floor stomping on her & hitting her." I personally witnessed several incidents with her beating her sons - her husband goes upstairs & shuts the bdrm door pretending not to hear. But nothing was done-she lives in rich suburb. It is MONEY, NOT love - she gets welfare since they are now "wards of the state," food stamps, WIC, HUGE tax refund due to earned income credit, which she would otherwise NOT receive- her children all left when they turned 18, all sorts of other government benefits AND she now sits at home on her butt, unemployed. I hope you can sleep in peace tonite Grandma B saying that my granddaughters "have a good home."

 

[craftymom]

You seem to be a very bitter person.

Half of your posts don't make sense. You blur past 'realities' with present 'possibilities'. You are blasting off about things concerning your sister, but are playing both sides of the fence in your accusations. (e.g. she's got lots of money to fight, yet she's getting earned income credit? She CAN'T have both). Yet at the same time, you're claiming that she denies you access to the children? Where is your proof??

One can only wonder who's really hitting the bottle in your life......

 

[wtd]

You started a new thread, without providing a link to the old one, so I have no idea what you said before, so -

Per original post (this thread)
...her money and her whining "I am a good Christian" (what a lie!!) ...
It doesn't seem to me that the factors mentioned above would stop the state of Ohio & the county Childrens Services Board from investigating if you had -
1) credibility
2) evidence indicating abuse and mistreatment

Per original post (this thread)
... But nothing was done-she lives in rich suburb ...
What else can the people get away with that live in this never-never land of immunity? (If I decide to do something bad, maybe I'll move!)

Not to say that your position is not as you state it, but it would be interesting to hear the other side of the story.

Hope you can resolve this to your satisfaction,
wtd
(Not a lawyer - just my thoughts)

 

[Grandma B]

Here's the previous thread. (BTW, if the subject choices are the only two available, I must be the sister's mother-in-law.)

hotpurple5
Junior Member

Registered: Aug 2001
Location: Ohio
Posts: 2
Witch Sister has custody of granddaughters-believes control over me to deny visits
My daughter (20) chose worthless alcoholic, boyfriend who fathered children by other girls while with my daughter over her own precious preemie twin newborns, removed by Childrens' Services from Intensive Care Unit 3/99. She could have gotten them home-always lying, acting as if no decent upbringing, started guzzling booze so "dad" would stay around. My sister was given temporary custody. Nightmare-she fantasized being new mother-artificial insemination failed.Her children are grown & she ran with this opportunity. Is very obsessed-has MY granddaughters calling her & hubby "Mommy"/"Daddy." Calls them "my little girls." Won't ret'n calls, refuses my visits. Money that I did not have for atty, she did. Idiot daughter believes my sister will never deny her visitation. I lived w/ her 16 yrs. She's manipulative, controlling, thrives on doing dirt to others. She had no other way to control me- I finally got good job after nasty engagement left me penniless. The CSB case mgr. ignored my pleas for visits- over 30 calls, no response. Same with supervisor. Court does not allow anyone but parents, Childrens Services in court proceedings. Daughter lost permanent custody late 4/01- TOLD me to write appeal; then told court I did it on my own- 3 yr old granddaughter removed Jan. from her-now w/ my sister too. I am devastated. I was in delivery rm w/ all 3. Oldest is VERY close to me. Sister uses "I am good Christian" lines to manipulate CSB. I can't convince them she used to regularly beat, stomp, scream in rages at her own children. Rich families don't get reported for such things. I am deeply depressed over my daughter & sister,torn apart over the witch doing this to granddaughters & me-she had no way of controlling me the way she uses her money to control other family & now the court. This is Ohio. Pls help & pray I can see my precious granddaughters soon. Thx!



08-28-2001 01:43 AM



Grandma B
Member

Registered: Oct 2000
Location: FL
Posts: 922
The important thing here is to remember that it's not about what any of the adults "want"--it's about what is in the best interest of the children involved. Sounds to me like they have a good home.